Episode 328
Episode 328: Dads in Modern Society: Embracing New Responsibilities
This podcast episode elucidates the evolving roles of fathers across generations, highlighting the significant shift from traditional roles of mere providers to the modern paradigm of engaged, nurturing co-parents. We delve into the historical context of Father’s Day, tracing its inception and the gradual recognition of fathers' contributions to family dynamics. The discussion fervently examines the implications of these changes, as we contemplate both the advantages and challenges that accompany the evolving perceptions of fatherhood. Central to our dialogue is the acknowledgment of the myriad ways fathers are redefining their identities within familial structures, and we reflect upon personal anecdotes that illustrate these transformations. Ultimately, we invite listeners to consider how these shifts shape contemporary family life, while also celebrating the fathers who actively participate in nurturing and raising their children.
Takeaways:
- The celebration of Father's Day has its historical roots, officially recognized as a holiday only in 1972.
- The role of fathers has evolved from traditional breadwinners to more active participants in child-rearing.
- Statistical evidence indicates that fathers today are more involved in childcare, spending significantly more time than in previous decades.
- There is a noticeable generational shift in perceptions of fatherhood, leading to more engaged and nurturing male figures in families.
- A significant change in societal dynamics has occurred, with fathers now expected to embrace emotional openness and vulnerability.
- Modern fatherhood is increasingly characterized by dual-income households, challenging traditional gender roles and expectations.
Transcript
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Speaker C:How are my kids on such the opposite ends of this spectrum here?
Speaker C:Like, well, one of my kids is like, man, you, it ain't Father's Day.
Speaker C:Ain't nobody about to celebrate your ass.
Speaker C:And my other one's like, hey, yes, let me give you.
Speaker C:I'm like, yo, have I been two different people to y'?
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Speaker B:It's Reuben, mo b and on the ones and twos ag.
Speaker A:The five minute warning.
Speaker A:Welcome everyone, to a brand new episode of five minute warning.
Speaker A:Of course, as always, it's your man Reuben in the house tonight.
Speaker A:First of all, happy Father's Day to all the fathers out there, all the stepdads out there, all the fur baby dads out there.
Speaker A:If you are taking care care of a living thing, happy Father's Day because you're doing more than I am.
Speaker A:Because I ain't taking care of them but me.
Speaker A:So happy Father's Day to all you people, all you men out there taking care of living things.
Speaker A:All right, so speaking of Father's Day, before we get into our topic today, just want to go over a couple things.
Speaker A: n of Father's day happened in: Speaker A:You know, a woman named Sonora Smart Dodd successfully complained campaigned for Washington state to celebrate the first statewide Father's Day.
Speaker A:She raised the idea after hearing a Mother's Day sermon because of course we gotta talk about how we love moms before dads always second fiddle gets that love.
Speaker A:And then of course, she wanted to honor her father who raised six children as a single parent.
Speaker A:Yes, out there people, men can raise children by themselves.
Speaker A:Just wanted to put that out there.
Speaker A: Then in: Speaker A:All right, it took a little bit because, you know, men were Being men and they didn't want to be feel like they were domesticated.
Speaker A: So in: Speaker A:And of course President Nixon in 72 officially signed father's Day into law as a permanent national holiday.
Speaker A:So yes, when it's all said and done, it took forever to get father's edge just do.
Speaker A:But they got that.
Speaker A:So shout out to all the dads out there, y' all earned that.
Speaker A:Y' all put up with a lot of stuff to get it.
Speaker A:Now with that being said, let's get into our topic of the day.
Speaker A:Top of day is very simple.
Speaker A:How have the roles of fathers play changed the last few generations?
Speaker A:You know what's good about those changes and what are some issues about that changes, other changes.
Speaker A:So what I'm gonna do, I'll pass it to Moby because you know, this is his, this was his segment, this is his question.
Speaker A:So I'll allow him to start it off.
Speaker C:All right, well I'll start off by, by going into a little like research mode.
Speaker C:So because we can't do anything on our own, I had to ask AI for some, for some help.
Speaker B:You had to ask on that?
Speaker C:Yeah, I had to ask, you know, the new Terminator files.
Speaker A:I'll be.
Speaker C:So I asked.
Speaker C:I actually posed the question to AI that very same way.
Speaker C:The exact way Ruben just read it.
Speaker C:So it said the role of fathers has shifted dramatically from the traditional stern provider and disciplinarian to actively engaged, hands on co parent increased child care time.
Speaker C: with kids as they did in the: Speaker C: In: Speaker C:Last year on that, that statistic is down to less than 3% of men can say they've never changed their kid's diaper.
Speaker C:Shift from breadwinner with the growth of dual income being necessary, the idea of the male being the sole breadwinner has depleted significantly over the past five decades, prioritizing co parenting and co parenting identities.
Speaker C:So I guess, I guess I wanted to go into, I wanted AI to give me some answers.
Speaker C:Even though, you know, most of those things I feel like we can kind of assume.
Speaker C:But it was kind of cool to see like hard line numbers to, you know, the whole idea that daddies ain't doing when there's actual research saying that daddy's not doing.
Speaker C:There's actually statistics saying that that's like.
Speaker C:Yeah, that's not actually the case.
Speaker C:Dad's out here doing, man, because they kind of have to, I guess this card that my daughter gave me also.
Speaker C:And I'm.
Speaker C:Then I'll kick it over to ag to answer the question.
Speaker C:I won't even answer the question.
Speaker C:But this cut art that my daughter got for me, like I thought was so spot on that I was just like, yo, that's.
Speaker C:I gotta open up with this.
Speaker C:It said some, it says, some psychologists say a dad is one of the most important elements in a child's character development.
Speaker C:So I'm mostly saying that I'm pretty much all your fault.
Speaker C:Well, damn, that's about right.
Speaker A:Is that the.
Speaker A:Was that the younger kid?
Speaker C:That's my oldest.
Speaker A:Yut.
Speaker A:Oh, that's funny.
Speaker A:But you know what?
Speaker C:I heard that card and I was just like not really spotting any lies there.
Speaker C:So I guess, I guess I'll kick it over to you Ag like.
Speaker C:And I guess to go in depth with the question, you know, we all know that the idea of like with the.
Speaker C:The dad's role in the family has changed now.
Speaker C:But how society stress these changes and what are some good and bad with these changes?
Speaker B:Well, for me, I think just in general the good.
Speaker B:The good part is men taking a more domestic role in their child's development, which when my dad was a kid, that wasn't really the case.
Speaker B:I think gender roles were one dimensional.
Speaker B:There are things I'm going into, you know, that makes that untrue now.
Speaker B:But you know, my dad was growing up.
Speaker B:Fortunately, you know, my grandfather did well enough to.
Speaker B:Where my grandmother never worked.
Speaker B:I don't think she ever worked.
Speaker B:And that was something that black people didn't really achieve.
Speaker B:Starting with my dad's generation, it started to be more of a dual income household after that for a few reasons.
Speaker B:So I think that's the good thing.
Speaker B:Like you said.
Speaker B:I think one of the stats that you had was only 3% of dads have not changed a diaper.
Speaker B:Where when I was growing up, 50, 50, 30, 70, something like that.
Speaker B:Where you like when I was growing up, when I.
Speaker B:The few times I babysat, it wasn't uncommon for me to change a diaper if I was around a small child because I wasn't gonna sit around and not do nothing.
Speaker B:My mom raised me.
Speaker B:Like I tell my wife all the time.
Speaker B:It's just like my mom had a boot camp for me almost until the day I got married.
Speaker B:It's just like, you not gonna be out here waiting for some woman to do something for you.
Speaker B:And she said that to me verbatim, many times.
Speaker B:She had to say it a lot like, you know, like I was rebelling.
Speaker B:Cause Ann Riddick said it.
Speaker B:And that's the gospel period.
Speaker B:But her sentiment was surely from, you know, her adult life, which was the beginning of the ERA movement.
Speaker B:So now that I've answered those questions, I'm gonna backtrack.
Speaker B:Because the way my dad grew up was the norm.
Speaker B:Tax code kind of changed that with upward mobility, black people getting a taste of like, George and Wheez.
Speaker B:But the tax code benefited white women in particular because of the way it was set up.
Speaker B:I'm not gonna really go all deep into it, but trust me, the tax code, the way it was then helped families like my dad, which wasn't the norm in white America.
Speaker B:It was the norm where you have a breadwinner that's the dad, and then you have a mom that doesn't have to work or whatever, that shit doesn't work at all.
Speaker B:The next biggest that I saw in history, I didn't see it, but I heard about in history, was the setup from a policy standpoint of the welfare infrastructure where they.
Speaker B:I hate to say it like this, but it's what it was.
Speaker B:They made policy to where it was much more valuable for the man not to be there.
Speaker B:And they paid black women to.
Speaker B:I mean, they strong armed him.
Speaker B:Because it was a whole different thing at first.
Speaker B:Like you're not having a whole bunch of what, you know, a whole bunch of people out there fulfilling the narrative at first, you know, it's just trying to get a leg up.
Speaker B:However, the rule was in general, if there's a man in the house, they don't get you jacked.
Speaker B:You can have all the babies you want to, but if there's a man in the house, I'm not going to give you any money.
Speaker B:Well, what did that do?
Speaker B:That made women cast aside men as far as being in the household.
Speaker B:Which leads me to the next big thing, which was gender roles changing based on, you know, what I can remember learning talking to my mom here and there.
Speaker B:You have a lot of women that all of a sudden have the power to go to work.
Speaker B:A few years after that, they would have the power to have their own credit.
Speaker B:Once you have the power to have your own credit, then, you know, the world opens up for you in a big way.
Speaker B:Because before that, you know, if this was like 70 years ago, Lauren would have to ask me for my signature so she could get a credit card if I ever left her, I could leave her destitute because she has zero chance of having her own place, zero chance without me.
Speaker B:And even though we were divorced or whatever, she gotta find a man.
Speaker B:So if her dad's not alive, she's she out to lunch, she's just out back.
Speaker B:That's a real thing.
Speaker B:That was what was happening to women at the time.
Speaker B:So when all of that was instantiated and all the credit was unleashed, that diminished over time, that diminished male role.
Speaker B:But in between, you know, the mid-70s, late-70s, and what we're seeing now is once, once you open that up, once the tax code doesn't really affect you, you know, as a woman.
Speaker B:And you know, you find yourself in a divorce situation for better or worse, and you find yourself being able to take care of yourself moving forward.
Speaker B:It's like, I don't really need a man, not for real, but I still am a woman and I can demand certain things.
Speaker B:So you have it going both ways.
Speaker B:So like when I was growing up, my mom was a lady, sure, but she made more than my dad.
Speaker B:Typically most of my life, my mom made more than my dad by a long shot.
Speaker B:And I don't care what anybody says, whoever makes the most money has the most juice.
Speaker B:I don't care.
Speaker B:Now a lot of people will argue and that's fine, but in my experience, money matters.
Speaker B:Money matters.
Speaker B:And I'm like, okay, so you have women making a lot of money, whether that's an on an hourly job.
Speaker B:Because I come from a manufacturing standpoint and I'm in a place where as far as I know, there is no she makes less than me type thing.
Speaker B:We all make the same thing.
Speaker B:We all, they all, even in management, they have a management scale.
Speaker B:There is no somebody makes more than you unless they actually are above you.
Speaker B:So all of these things together, wanting to be uply mobile, the system making it so you have to find another level of broke again, the unleashing of credit.
Speaker B:And now it's easier for you to get in debt.
Speaker B:Now you want to be George and Wheezy.
Speaker B:You want the trappings, and I really mean that word, you want the trappings of doing well.
Speaker B:Now you have to have a two income household.
Speaker B:Now it's cool at first because you know, you have, you know, a check for the bills and you have a check for savings.
Speaker B:And so for 30 years people are doing well, they're a little leveraged, but you know, they have savings or whatever, and they're retiring on time.
Speaker B:All the things.
Speaker B:Now all that has changed because the rise in taking care of yourself and your paycheck are vastly different.
Speaker B:So again, with all of those things going on, by the time we get to now, during this time, men's role has been diminished because men aren't out here making all the money, and they're making it so women are making so much money and being so educated that the illusion that men are, like, unnecessary becomes much more present.
Speaker B:Because I don't know a woman that can't take care of herself.
Speaker B:In fact, when I look at a woman, I look at you like a dude.
Speaker B:It's like, figure it out.
Speaker B:I would have never said that 40 years ago, but now I look at a woman, like, figure it out.
Speaker B:So when you have all these gender roles changing, men start to be.
Speaker B:Start to have to listen to power, which is you need to figure out how to change a diaper, you need to understand how to cook, you need to understand how to clean, help me do my job, all the things.
Speaker B:And so now you have all this.
Speaker B:But a dude can't take care of his family, usually cannot take care of his family at any level without female help.
Speaker B:And because of that and everything else I just named, it's like, I feel like the power of a dude, has a father, has been eroded because we're just not necessary.
Speaker B:And I feel like that the world has the illusion that men are obsolete because again, like I said this before, it's an illusion because women.
Speaker B:Women can play both sides against the middle.
Speaker B:That's important too.
Speaker B:Like, I've never seen a woman who can't make it, but I've also never seen a woman that actually, you know, actually takes on the responsibility with the power that they have now because they can still call on a man, even if it's their dad.
Speaker B:So it's like, you know, down with the patriarchy, but my dad will come and help me.
Speaker B:What, so you have it coming and going.
Speaker B:That's not really power to me.
Speaker B:Well, it is power, but it's just like, without responsibility.
Speaker B:So going back 70 years and seeing how things have changed from a policy standpoint, welfare, then gender rights, women's rights, being up, wanting to be upwardly mobile because you have all this new freedom and all this new money, and then having the system play itself in a way or, you know, kind of construct itself in a way in which you're trapped.
Speaker B:It's okay at first, but then it's not.
Speaker B:But then these daughters are looking at Their mom, you know, pay these bills, and then they just like, I don't need a man.
Speaker B:And then they raise daughters.
Speaker B:And then they raise daughters.
Speaker B:But by the time it's over with, you know, the men don't have a lot of value.
Speaker B:They just don't have a lot of apparent value.
Speaker B:Then they do have a value because your phone's still gonna blow up, your bank account still gonna be decreased if there's a woman in your life, but you don't have any real juice.
Speaker B:So that is my.
Speaker B:When I read the question, that was exactly my answer.
Speaker A:So I'm gonna take this from a different standpoint because I'm not a father, but I feel like.
Speaker A:I feel like unfortunately.
Speaker A:I don't want to say unfortunately.
Speaker A:I feel like I can make this statement that though, because of things I've.
Speaker A:Jobs I've had in the past, I think there have been times where I've been a father figure.
Speaker A:And I think that's really.
Speaker A:I think that's.
Speaker C:I think that's a fair statement, man.
Speaker C:Like, that's fair.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So, like.
Speaker A:And that's where I want to go with it, right?
Speaker A:Because one of the big things that are different now than it was when we were growing up, I mean, you know, I would dare say, and yeah, I'm a catch seat, and that's fine, but there are a lot of dudes out here just having children out of wedlock, like, and we can sit here.
Speaker A:And the first question is, well, how does that affect them being a father?
Speaker A:Apparently, a lot.
Speaker A:Because there's a lot of fathers who are not there for their children because they have no.
Speaker A:They have no real connection to the.
Speaker A:To the mother other than the child.
Speaker A:And they have chosen either to A, not be in their life, or B, unfortunately, they've gotten in a situation in which they can't AKA go to jail or things of that such.
Speaker A:And I think, you know, combine that with now, as AG said, the ability to women make their own money.
Speaker A:Yes, it is a lot of I don't need no man.
Speaker A:And what a positive case.
Speaker A:Say what that man.
Speaker A:What your man got to do with me.
Speaker A:I mean, we went through a period in which it was just like.
Speaker A:And I'm not talking about parents who were together and they got divorced.
Speaker A:I'm talking about the amount of children that parents were never together is way higher than it is.
Speaker A:I mean, now than it is back when I was growing up, you know.
Speaker A:Cause I would say most of my friends had two parents, you know, unless something happened to one of them.
Speaker A:Like, maybe they passed away or maybe the parent got a divorce.
Speaker A:But, you know, it's.
Speaker A:I didn't.
Speaker A:Growing up, I did not experience a lot of single parent families.
Speaker A:They're a couple, but not a lot.
Speaker A:And these days, I mean, yeah, you have some dudes who take care of their kids, and then you have some dudes who are just like, man, f them kids.
Speaker A:You know, you went and lifted the pooty and you got a kid now, like, you know, it's one thing for me to say, f them kids, because I ain't got no kids out there as far as I know.
Speaker A:Knock, knock, knock.
Speaker A:But, yo, it's a different.
Speaker A:It's a different world now.
Speaker A:And I'm not even talking about, like, one kid.
Speaker A:I'm talking about, like, there, you know, there are some people, there are some women who have, like, two, three, and four children, some with the same man, some with different men.
Speaker A:And I'm just like.
Speaker A:And that's a story for another time.
Speaker A:But if we're going to talk about the father situation, you know, it also becomes a situation where that is affected.
Speaker A:Because, hey, if you're a kid and you got two other brothers, and each one of y' all got different daddies, and maybe only one comes around, you know, that's gonna change your outlook on your parent or your father.
Speaker A:Because when it's all said and done and I'm not, once again, I'm not trying to shit on anybody.
Speaker A:It may sound like I'm.
Speaker A:I'm not, but it's just like, you know, Dan is just mom.
Speaker A:And then that's when, like, in the past, you know, Mo B has always talked about how moms talk about.
Speaker A:About happy Father's Day.
Speaker A:And he has changed that.
Speaker A:He's changed his tune on that, you know, in the last coming years.
Speaker A:But at the beginning, it was like, man, don't be like, happy father.
Speaker A:Let us have a day.
Speaker A:Which he is completely not wrong, you.
Speaker C:Know, But I haven't softened my approach on that.
Speaker C:I still mean that.
Speaker A:Thank you for writing.
Speaker A:I thought you were softer your stuff.
Speaker A:No, I think last year you were kind of just like.
Speaker C:I don't even.
Speaker C:Because I don't look at social media on this day no more because I don't.
Speaker C:I don't do anything to.
Speaker C:To even get myself upse it.
Speaker A:I haven't looked at a lot of social media today, so I. I don't know if it's out there, but.
Speaker A:Yeah, so it's like.
Speaker A:I just.
Speaker A:I think it's a combination ag of what you said back in the day, it was like, my grandparents, my.
Speaker A:Our grandparents, man.
Speaker A:Grandma had no job.
Speaker B:Yeah, never.
Speaker B:As far as I know.
Speaker B:Never.
Speaker B:Yeah, neither one of my grandparents had jobs.
Speaker B:Neither one of them.
Speaker A:Yeah, the woman never had a job.
Speaker A:The.
Speaker A:The man had the job.
Speaker A:She took care of the kids.
Speaker A:She helped raise the, you know, he did whatever, whatever.
Speaker A:And then the grandkid came along.
Speaker A:The grandkids got.
Speaker A:Take care about it.
Speaker A:You know, that was their job.
Speaker A:And now, like.
Speaker A:Like growing up, my mom worked.
Speaker A:When I was younger, when I'm like, you know, zero to five, I know mom worked and dad worked, you know, so it was.
Speaker A:But I would also say that, you know, is that that statistic that.
Speaker A:That Moby said earlier about.
Speaker A:About most.
Speaker A:I guess back in the day, most men never change a diaper.
Speaker A:First of all, that was pretty alarming.
Speaker A:Now I can't stand and say to my dad changed.
Speaker A:My dad.
Speaker A:My assumption is that he did, but I can't be like, yeah, I remember when he changed my diaper and I peed in his face.
Speaker A:No, I can't say that I remember that.
Speaker A:But, you know, I. I don't know.
Speaker A:That's not a question I never really asked because I assumed there was a yes.
Speaker A:But, yeah, man, like.
Speaker A:Like, the difference between then and now is just.
Speaker A:It's completely different because everything is different.
Speaker A:The dichotomy is different.
Speaker A:The world is different.
Speaker A:I mean, like I said earlier, man, we didn't get Father's Day Till what?
Speaker A: Till: Speaker A: didn't even think about till: Speaker A:Hey, maybe I want to tell my dad he did a good job.
Speaker A:We should have a Father's Day, like.
Speaker A:But Mother's Day was full in effect, way before then.
Speaker A:So, like.
Speaker A:And once again, I'm not out here no Mother's Day.
Speaker A:I'm not.
Speaker A:I love my mother.
Speaker A:I love all mothers, you know, but all I'm saying is, hey, hey, man,.
Speaker C:I have a problem with that, man.
Speaker C:Like, Ruben, we talking about Father's Day, and you still feel the need to be out here apologizing?
Speaker A:I'm sorry.
Speaker C:I'm not a father, so I can't live.
Speaker C:I apologize to the moms right now.
Speaker C:We're not talking about them.
Speaker A:I mean, I'm apologizing because my statement sounded very harsh about Mother's Day.
Speaker B:Didn't sound harsh.
Speaker C:It didn't sound harsh to anyone.
Speaker A:I mean, let me.
Speaker C:You've been programmed.
Speaker C:You've been programmed, man.
Speaker C:You've been programmed to devalue the Father's Role.
Speaker C:No, no, hear me out.
Speaker C:You've been programmed to devalue the father' role.
Speaker C:So even just talking about how fathers aren't getting appreciated enough, you feel the need to basically say, hey, I just want to make sure I'm not.
Speaker A:Y.
Speaker C:Don't think I'm saying Mother's Day ain't important.
Speaker C:Like, we not.
Speaker C:You can say Father's Day matters without devaluing any other day to apologize.
Speaker A:You see, I was about to say I'm sorry then, but I caught myself.
Speaker A:I'm not gonna apologize.
Speaker B:You remind me of how irritated I was doing the show after Charlie Kirk was killed.
Speaker B:As many bad things as he did and said to us as a people, we still had to tiptoe around the fact that he was murdered.
Speaker B:I'm like, just because he murdered doesn't mean he's not a dick.
Speaker B:Let's stop this.
Speaker B:But it never did.
Speaker B:And the same thing here.
Speaker B:Don't tiptoe around it, man.
Speaker C:We ain't talking about Mother's Day right now.
Speaker A:Yes, sir.
Speaker B:We're talking about men.
Speaker B:And it's okay, because, trust me, I understand you.
Speaker B:I'm just letting you know you don't have to do it right now.
Speaker A:Yes, sir.
Speaker B:Appreciate you.
Speaker A:Yes, sir.
Speaker A:Shout out to Nikki.
Speaker A:She says, single mother.
Speaker A:She raised three kids.
Speaker A:I didn't allow my kids to celebrate me on Father's Day.
Speaker C:Thank you.
Speaker C:Congrats.
Speaker C:Congrats to you.
Speaker C:I appreciate that.
Speaker A:Because you are in the minimum, Ms.
Speaker B:Nikki, you're in the minimum because Moby, I want.
Speaker B:I'm sorry.
Speaker B:Rude.
Speaker A:But, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker B:And we were talking about the social media, your media that you're trying to avoid.
Speaker B:The new trend is women should be.
Speaker B:You should say happy Father's Day to women because they the ones that made you a father.
Speaker B:I've seen that.
Speaker A:What kind of is that?
Speaker B:Because women can do that, sir.
Speaker B:That's why I'm like, don't tiptoe around.
Speaker A:Look at his face, man.
Speaker A:His face face.
Speaker A:He's already getting upset.
Speaker C:Like, I'm not getting upset because I don't engage in it anymore.
Speaker C:Like, instead of going into a room full of people that are going to piss me off, I just don't go in the room.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker B:But just to let you know, that's the.
Speaker B:That's the new trend this weekend.
Speaker A:Like, yesterday, I was at.
Speaker A:I was at Wendy's.
Speaker A:Stop, get some breakfast, you know, blah, blah, blah, woman.
Speaker A:There was like, happy Father's Day.
Speaker A:Instead of me saying, well, I'm not a father, I just said, thank you and moved over going.
Speaker A:You know, and that's all I did.
Speaker A:Because why get into that discussion?
Speaker A:Because that's just not.
Speaker A:I'm just trying to get my damn food.
Speaker A:Like, when it's all said done, I'm just trying to get my food.
Speaker A:And then the funny part about it was, a dude in there was like, man, you ain't say happy Father's Day to nobody else up in here.
Speaker A:Which was hilarious, because he was just.
Speaker A:He got mad that she said happy Father's Day to me and not to him.
Speaker B:And I'm just like, y' all need.
Speaker A:To handle that separately.
Speaker C:Would have been even funnier if she'd have been like, you don't see your kids.
Speaker A:And I think if she would have said that, the next statement out of his mouth would have been a strong you.
Speaker A:It would be great, because, hey, man, you can't.
Speaker A:You can't attack a man like that.
Speaker A:And after he says something and she came with that, man, I don't care where you working at.
Speaker A:That dude's gonna be like, you.
Speaker A:And you might get lucky if it's not a you.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker A:And he wouldn't have given two shits about where he was.
Speaker C:It wouldn't have stopped it from being funny, though.
Speaker A:It would have been.
Speaker C:Stopped it from being funny.
Speaker A:I would have let this.
Speaker A:If that would have happened, Boby, I would have led today with that.
Speaker A:Because it was already funny that he was just like, you ain't said happy Father's Day.
Speaker A:Nobody up here.
Speaker A:She was like, well, I'm not gonna be here tomorrow.
Speaker A:He was like, well, I'm here right now.
Speaker A:I was like, yo, I gotta go.
Speaker A:It was hilarious.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker A:But, yeah, man.
Speaker A:I mean, so many things have changed, and it's just.
Speaker A:And like I said earlier, you know, because I used to work with children, I do feel like, at a time, I was a father figure, which is good and sad at the same time.
Speaker A:So, yeah, man, it's just.
Speaker A:Everything has changed from when I can't even say our parents, our grandparents, you know, raise children and stuff in the whole household thing to now.
Speaker A:So it's been a.
Speaker A:You know, it's a.
Speaker A:It's definitely been a generational thing.
Speaker A:And it's been that wheel that.
Speaker A:That boulder has run down the hill, and it picks up all the snow, and it gets bigger and bigger and bigger.
Speaker A:And now this is where we are, you know?
Speaker A:So, like, once again, shout out to all the fathers who are there for their children, because there are a whole bunch of you.
Speaker A:It ain't.
Speaker A:And that's that's just what it is.
Speaker C:Hey man, I couldn't have planned this any better.
Speaker C:Both of Yalls answers are like so perfectly leading into like my response.
Speaker C:First of all Ag, the financial thing is like it's.
Speaker C:It's like you were reading my mind about the finances and how, how literally the government really did incentivize especially our community to kind of basically remove the men from the household.
Speaker C:And Reuben, your point is brilliant.
Speaker C:And the reason I say it's brilliant is because everything you said is about narrative.
Speaker C:Because if I told you that everything you said was factually incorrect, it would shock you.
Speaker C:But literally everything you said is factually incorrect.
Speaker B:Correct.
Speaker C:Like when you, you said most a lot of fathers.
Speaker C:Statistically that's actually not true.
Speaker C:But the narrative that gets created, you would think that like 80 of all guys are like completely absent from their kids lives.
Speaker C:And that's really not even close to the statistic.
Speaker C:Like we're actually a lot closer to our white counterparts parts in that regard.
Speaker C:But you would never know by narrative.
Speaker C:And Reuben, that's not a knock on you because part of the narrative.
Speaker C:You know, I would love to blame this on the man because it's really easy to blame this on the man.
Speaker C:The white man is so easy to just say he's doing that.
Speaker C:But really a lot of the narrative today is created by women.
Speaker C:And not all women, but the hit dogs holler.
Speaker C:So the women who really do experience some of these ain't are so loud that if you're from a distance you think all the women are saying that the 1%.
Speaker C:Okay, it's a big, it's bigger than that.
Speaker C:Like I ain't out here trying to cherry pick for the men here.
Speaker C:I ain't out here trying to be too ride or die for us.
Speaker C:But because of systematic things that happened when we basically were systematically kind of removed from a lot of households, you had a generational gap where a lot of fathers were not per se in the house.
Speaker C:So when you never see the value in something it.
Speaker C:The value is diminished exponentially as time goes.
Speaker C:So the 70s and 80s you were starting to see men total 60, 70 starting to see is totally get moved out of the household.
Speaker C:So by the 80s and 90s when some of those guys aren't there now it's, it's the story is hey well we don't really need them anyway.
Speaker C:What, what value do they bring?
Speaker C:So then you have a whole generational gap of people who actually did forget the actual importance of the male figure in the household.
Speaker C:So now as Guys are trying to still be that you're fighting up against the narrative.
Speaker C:So when I asked the question, like, you know, what are some good things about it?
Speaker C:I'll tell you as, as a girl dad is, especially as somebody who my dad wasn't around all the time.
Speaker C:I was raised by primarily nothing but like tons of women and, and great uncles.
Speaker C:I appreciate the fact that, the fact that men have to play more of a nurturing role now or, or not even have to.
Speaker C:We just do.
Speaker A:Like,.
Speaker C:Because part of the way men instill nurturing, especially in other boy in young men, is emotional regulation.
Speaker C:Like a lot of people think men teach other men not to have emotion.
Speaker C:No, that's just, just, that's just a perspective of a woman, typically.
Speaker C:Because all the men in my life, like all my great uncles, it was never about not having emotion.
Speaker C:It was never about, you know, being super masculine, manly all the time.
Speaker C:It was about, hey, your emotions don't mean you can't do it was about emotional regulation.
Speaker C:Hey, hey.
Speaker C:It wasn't, wasn't, don't be crying because men don't cry.
Speaker C:It was like, hey, don't be crying because that shit's keeping you from doing the stuff you got to do.
Speaker C:You know, it was almost like, hey man, like, I'm not telling you not to feel.
Speaker C:I'm telling you that you've got to learn how to feel and keep moving.
Speaker C:You gotta, you gotta be able to chew gum and walk at the same time, man.
Speaker C:And that, that emotional regulation got removed for a couple generations.
Speaker C:So now masculinity got called toxic.
Speaker C:So now there's a lot of fathers out here fighting the toxic masculinity myth.
Speaker C:Like when a guy's tough and disciplined, they're like, oh, that's toxic masculinity.
Speaker C:And old school guys look at it and go, no, that's actually like self discipline.
Speaker C:That's instilling discipline.
Speaker C:Yes, it might hurt right now, but that's part of what discipline is.
Speaker C:Discipline is, hey, man, sometimes you got to struggle in the short term to get the long term goal that got completely removed.
Speaker C:So as a father, I fight that all the time.
Speaker C:And, and that's not a knock on, on my wife all the time.
Speaker C:It's just we are built to see things differently.
Speaker C:I, I watched Prime Example, I watched my daughter get hurt in a game, and my response usually is, get the fuck up now.
Speaker C:This isn't because I don't care that she's hurt.
Speaker C:My thing is, I've also seen how she'll be hurt and she looks for other people's response to her injury.
Speaker C:And if everybody is, oh, my God, is everything okay?
Speaker C:She takes that as, oh, now I.
Speaker A:Don't have to do.
Speaker C:And I'm.
Speaker C:And with me, it's like, no, if you're really injured, no, don't do.
Speaker C:But if you just gonna complain about a little bruise.
Speaker C:And you he me, hey, this is what you wanted.
Speaker C:You signed up for this.
Speaker C:I didn't know if you do this, you signed up for this.
Speaker C:Once again, male point of view looks at that as discipline.
Speaker C:It's like, yo, you don't.
Speaker C:You don't get to quit because you're.
Speaker C:You're a little hurt, or you don't get to quit because it gets a little hard.
Speaker C:Where I. I'm not saying my wife is a quitter.
Speaker C:I'm simply saying the nurturing side of her, she sees them something go get really difficult for them, and she was.
Speaker C:Wants to protect them from it.
Speaker C:And me, I'm just like, yo, we can't protect them from everything they.
Speaker C:They got because me.
Speaker C:And.
Speaker C:And part of it's maybe because of all the stuff that I go through in my life, too.
Speaker C:I'm just like, yo, I got to be comforted in knowing that they can.
Speaker C:They can deal with on their own because I know one day I'm not going to be here to.
Speaker C:To pick them up.
Speaker C:I'm not going to be here to protect them from all these outside things.
Speaker C:So I want as much discipline in the short term as I can give.
Speaker C:Now, I realize that there's a balance, but what makes that balance even more difficult is when you have everybody telling you that that's toxic.
Speaker C:When you've got a whole generation of people who think that's toxic.
Speaker C:As a coach, I see it all the time.
Speaker C:I tell my wife all the time.
Speaker C:By the second practice, I generally can tell you every kid on our team that has a present or active male role model model in their house, and it's basically just on how they deal with stress.
Speaker C:If, if, if they're talking back, if they get super emotional, if they're pouting all the time, I'm just like, ty ain't got no dad there.
Speaker C:Or he cool.
Speaker C:He cool because, like, he get mad, but he.
Speaker C:He don't.
Speaker C:He don't totally out on me.
Speaker C:And those are important things.
Speaker A:Like, D.L.
Speaker C:Hughley had his podcast this week.
Speaker C:It was like, where all the black fathers out?
Speaker C:He's like, they're raising champions.
Speaker C:And they had a picture of, like, Jalen Brunson and his dad And I saw clips of, like, you know, him making Jalen Brunson do practice when he's, like, a teenager and everything.
Speaker C:Yeah, sounds like a hard ass.
Speaker C:But, like, I listen to that and I go, that sounds like a hard disciplinary coach to me.
Speaker C:And I know there are a whole bunch of, hey, he's just a kid.
Speaker C:Why are you being so hard on him?
Speaker C:It's like, discipline.
Speaker C:Like, look, your nurturing is going to be super important to that kid one day.
Speaker C:But I promise you, a lot of.
Speaker C:A lot of the.
Speaker C:The cultivating ass come from these women that say, ain't like a lot of women out here who are saying these ain't, are raising them right now, right.
Speaker A:Now, not to be.
Speaker C:So when I say the positives are.
Speaker C:Are the idea that it is not just okay for dads to be, like, emotionally present for their kids.
Speaker C:Kids, it's, like, expected.
Speaker C:It's truly expected now.
Speaker C:And I know just one generational just.
Speaker C:Just my dad's generation, like, it was perfectly acceptable for him to be a person that worked and maybe saw me a few hours on the weekend.
Speaker C:And he.
Speaker C:And that's.
Speaker C:Even if we were living in the same household, it's just like, hey, if he was the breadwinner, he went out, he worked, he did all the things, he came back.
Speaker C:I saw him on the weekend a little bit.
Speaker C:Or if I got in trouble, you know, like, the whole.
Speaker C:Mama would tell you, I'm gonna tell your daddy when he get home.
Speaker B:Oh, my God.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker C:Like.
Speaker A:Like PTSD right there.
Speaker C:That was our disciplinary thing.
Speaker C:It was like, hey, hey, hey.
Speaker C:I'm gonna tell you, daddy, when you get home.
Speaker A:No, she got the cash.
Speaker C:Once again, we hear that.
Speaker C:Our generation kind of hears that, and we go, oh, yeah, I remember that.
Speaker C:There's a generational gap between y' all and now.
Speaker C:Now that never feared that.
Speaker A:Ghost in the corner.
Speaker C:No, it's not even about that.
Speaker C:Now, even if the male is present, they're not allowed to discipline a kid because as AG said, person who's making the money a lot of times has the juice.
Speaker C:So when you got.
Speaker C:When you got single moms out here and the kids living with them and dad only has, like, visitation rights on the weekend, it's really hard for him to truly discipline them.
Speaker C:Because a lot of times.
Speaker C:And I'm not saying.
Speaker C:I'm not accusing every woman of this, but a lot of times, like, the woman is talking about him when the kids with her.
Speaker C:So by the time the kid gets with him, he's already got a whole bunch of images in his head that don't show respect for this.
Speaker C:So what I hate about the day now is fighting, fighting my role.
Speaker C:I'm, I'm so thankful and lucky that I don't.
Speaker C:You know, part of that is process of elimination and making good choices.
Speaker C:As you stated, Reuben, there's a lot of women just out here having babies.
Speaker C:There's a lot of dudes just out here procreating.
Speaker C:So I, I'll put the blame both ways, but you should be careful with who, who you are procreating with because a lot of these dudes who are out here in these fights where like I'm, I'm fighting to see my kids and everything.
Speaker C:Everything.
Speaker C:Yeah, you probably should have did a little bit of more research before you went shot at the club.
Speaker C:It's just a little bit more research.
Speaker C:Like, look, I'm not saying people can't get food, but what I'm saying is everybody ain't getting food.
Speaker C:And, and if you have a kid with a woman who has four other kids by three other men and you were number, and you were number three, that means you, you, you had two in front of you that you could have learned from.
Speaker A:A she fertile as all get out tb.
Speaker A:Hey man, you gotta at least use something.
Speaker A:You know, back in the early 90s, man, they talked about the Jimmy hats like, yo, they talked about jimmy hats like it was oxygen.
Speaker A:Rap was, hey, don't get a J hat.
Speaker C:Hey, look, I will tell you if, if hip hop in, in black culture talking about condoms has any poster child, it is me.
Speaker C:I, I was, I was all about that life.
Speaker C:As I've stated several, as I stated several times up here, very untested pull out game here, buddy.
Speaker C:Because I've never had to.
Speaker C:I'm just like, hey man, like I, I was all about latex.
Speaker C:Like I could have endorsed so I could tell you so many things about condom brands.
Speaker C:Because I was just like, yo, I had my preferences, I had the one.
Speaker C:Look man, I was on it because what I wasn't trying to do was irresponsibly procreate and catch something.
Speaker C:And not necessarily in that order.
Speaker A:Or by, you know, but you also made, I think you made pretty decent choices once again.
Speaker C:I think so too.
Speaker C:Don't mean that I did all the necessary research I should have done beforehand before I decided to penetrate that vagina.
Speaker C:I didn't have all of the research I needed.
Speaker C:I just had enough for that moment.
Speaker C:But you had protection once again.
Speaker C:That's because I knew, hey man, I have not fully vetted this source.
Speaker C:So let me protect myself.
Speaker A:Because, man, you could have went in the water without no oxygen.
Speaker A:And guess what's going to happen?
Speaker A:Your ass going to drown.
Speaker C:I wanted to make sure that I could verify my sources.
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Speaker A:I mean, yeah, it's.
Speaker A:And I will say this, and I know we're talking about the Father's Day thing, but this, to me, this is a.
Speaker A:A thing.
Speaker A:Because sometimes it does come up with people.
Speaker A:Because people ask me, are you married?
Speaker A:No.
Speaker A:And ask.
Speaker A:They asked me, do you have children?
Speaker A:Because that's.
Speaker A:That's usually the next question, if you're married.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker A:And I get the funny look.
Speaker A:And then they ask me how old I am, and I tell them, and it's just like, how did you make it through that long period without kids?
Speaker A:Because, you know, you should have accidentally just slipped up and fell into some.
Speaker C:I gotta take you to First Baptist Church one day so you can have some ladies ask you that question and then ask you, are you gay?
Speaker C:Gay?
Speaker C:I'm telling.
Speaker C:I know I've said that story so many times up here, but I just could not believe on a Sunday morning that somebody would just be like, you.
Speaker C:You ain't married.
Speaker C:You ain't got no kids, bro.
Speaker C:Is you gay?
Speaker C:Like.
Speaker C:Like, how did we get here so fast?
Speaker A:Like, I mean, like, hey, man, you're not a man unless you get kids.
Speaker A:What?
Speaker A:Like, that's.
Speaker A:That's not true.
Speaker C:Like, I will tell you that.
Speaker C:You do realize it's not so much different if you were a woman your age and had the same story.
Speaker B:Very true.
Speaker C:Everybody would be looking at you the same way.
Speaker C:If not wrong with you, even probably a little harsher cuz they would assume that nobody either you crazy as hell or something's got to be wrong with you that nobody accidentally shot up your club once or twice.
Speaker A:Like, and that's the thing, man, it's just like so as, and that's, you know, there are times where I just want to be like, look man, I get it, everybody's got kids.
Speaker A:But you know what I'm not doing?
Speaker A:I'm not shooting up clubs, man.
Speaker A:That's not what I do.
Speaker C:Because they like, look man, I get it.
Speaker A:Maybe especially with the ran with a random like, bro, what are we doing?
Speaker A:Do it like, what are we doing?
Speaker C:Ruben, in all fairness, in all fairness, they're all random.
Speaker C:They're all random until you vet the source.
Speaker C:Until you actually have adequate time to do resource.
Speaker C:I, I, I, I guarantee you've got at least one person in your history that you know godamn well you didn't properly vet before you slid off up in it.
Speaker A:I mean, that's true for most, once again, most.
Speaker C:That's all I'm saying, Reuben.
Speaker A:I mean, you know, cuz alcohol is dangerous.
Speaker C:Like, I'm not asking for your justification, I'm not judging.
Speaker C:I'm simply stating everybody knows that, you know, not every source is properly vetted now.
Speaker A:Now I mean, that's why you have to use a jimmy hat.
Speaker A:But these kids don't know what jimmy hats are.
Speaker A:So you have to say condom.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Which is interesting because I guess it was a couple years ago, I think we talked about it, how they put a condom dispenser in the school and all the parents got upset and I'm just like, you should be lucky somebody cares.
Speaker C:You see the weird thing about that?
Speaker C:Cause that kind of goes under this thing too.
Speaker C:It's like, like one of the roles of, one of the roles of fatherhood used to be to give the talk too.
Speaker A:Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:That that used to be a real big like you ain't you, you ain't gave them the talk yet.
Speaker C:And it was never nobody looking at the mom saying that.
Speaker C:It was like, you ain't giving them the talk yet.
Speaker C:So, so once again.
Speaker C:So the idea of putting a condom dispenser in the school to me is like, hey, that shouldn't affect anybody if they properly had to talk at home.
Speaker C:Like that would just be like, hey, this is a source.
Speaker C:If you about to be out here doing something, which look, we ain't stupid, we know a lot of people are like, hey, now you've got the source to actually protect yourself.
Speaker A:Now, if you put that in an elementary school, might be a little bit off base.
Speaker C:Exactly.
Speaker C:Out of high school.
Speaker A:I mean, let's be real.
Speaker A:I know when I was going to high school for the floor every day.
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker C:But even if they're like, hey, this isn't something that kids should be doing.
Speaker C:There's a lot of 18 year olds in high school.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker C:That happens.
Speaker C:Like you're seeing the year.
Speaker C:There's a lot of seniors right now, 18 in high school, that, yeah, they.
Speaker A:Got left back in kindergarten.
Speaker A:It happens.
Speaker C:And then I'm just like, hey, look, even you, old times.
Speaker C:Even, even you people a generation or two ahead of me.
Speaker C:You mean to tell me you know about nobody having sex in high school?
Speaker C:Right?
Speaker C:Look, I. I get it.
Speaker C:I get it.
Speaker C:Every time you try to tell the story of you, you try to make it seem like y' all was the good generation.
Speaker C:But I promise, you been going on forever.
Speaker A:I mean, what was it?
Speaker A:What's it called?
Speaker A:Woodstock.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Miss me with that?
Speaker A:Like, miss me with that.
Speaker A:You're alive for Woodstock?
Speaker A:Oh, you were there?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Miss me with anything, Reuben.
Speaker C:And see, I'm not even talking about Woodstock.
Speaker C: Look, my grandma was born in: Speaker C:I promise you.
Speaker C:She knew about some people that was having sex in high school.
Speaker C:Like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like you just miss me all with that.
Speaker C:Just like, man, maybe it wasn't running rampant like it is today birthday, but trust me.
Speaker C:And here's the thing.
Speaker C:Even if they weren't all having sex in high school, don't tell me most of them guys weren't actively trying.
Speaker C:They were doing their best.
Speaker C:It's just, you know, it was a little bit more difficult back then.
Speaker C:You didn't have as much free time, didn't have as much freedom.
Speaker C:You didn't have as much.
Speaker C:I was about to say something else.
Speaker C:No, I'll say you didn't have as many hoes just out here roaming the streets at a young age.
Speaker A:You know, I completely disagree.
Speaker B:I disagree also.
Speaker C:Okay, okay.
Speaker C:You didn't have as many outward young hoes.
Speaker C:Can we say that?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:Because during the time, every generation has their definition of who the outward hoes.
Speaker C:Were, but now you can't differentiate them from everybody else.
Speaker A:I don't know how to answer that.
Speaker B:I mean, I hear what he's saying, but I really do feel like the only difference between then and now.
Speaker B:Now is exposure.
Speaker C:Of course.
Speaker C:Of course.
Speaker C:And that's what I mean, by the exposure, like.
Speaker C:Like the ones who had a reputation, hey, they did.
Speaker C:They worked hard to get that reputation back in the day.
Speaker C:We had to work hard.
Speaker C:Like, if everybody on the block knew you was giving it out like that.
Speaker C:Like, everybody knew.
Speaker C:Yeah, you.
Speaker C:You put in some work for that reputation.
Speaker A:I mean, they did come out with a song said Brittany was a dumb hoe.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker C:Like.
Speaker A:I mean, they use names and everything.
Speaker C:I'm telling you what.
Speaker C:All I'm saying is the exposure was different.
Speaker A:It was just different, I think, these days.
Speaker A:Not that I've been in school or anything, but I feel like these days it's more or less, you know, who ain't giving it up.
Speaker C:I mean, it's probably a shorter list.
Speaker C:It's probably definitely a shorter list.
Speaker A:I guess.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker C:You know, I mean, look, man, it goes back to ain't nothing new under the sun.
Speaker C:So what I'm saying is everything that's prevalent today was preferably back then.
Speaker C:Yeah, it's just a lot more loud now.
Speaker C:It's just a lot more in your face now.
Speaker A:It's just social media, social media now.
Speaker A:And everybody put their business out because they stupid, man.
Speaker C:I'm not gonna say stupid.
Speaker C:That's just generational.
Speaker C:That's just what they do do.
Speaker C:But what I will say is, like, we, we.
Speaker C:And, you know, men and women both played a good, good role in this.
Speaker C:We have really, really socially accepted the idea of prostitution.
Speaker C:Like, we, we, we.
Speaker C:See, here's the thing, Ruby, you frown on your face.
Speaker C:I don't mean like, actual per se.
Speaker A:No, that wasn't a frown.
Speaker C:It's.
Speaker C:It's like.
Speaker C:Like we were listening to music today on my road trip today, and I'm listening to all these songs, and I'm just like, yo, every one of these songs is basically about prostitution.
Speaker C:Like, the woman is basically advertising about prostitution.
Speaker C:The dude is basically saying that they whip prostitution.
Speaker C:Like, everything.
Speaker C:The idea of a woman saying, hey, you can me if you have enough money.
Speaker C:That is.
Speaker C:That is just annoying form now.
Speaker C:Like, even.
Speaker C:Even if guys have always felt like that was the actual truth.
Speaker C:It's just something really different about the women agreeing with you out loud.
Speaker C:It's something.
Speaker C:It's something that, like, totally removes the steam from.
Speaker C:It's like, I can't even call you a hoe because you talking about you being a hoe.
Speaker C:But, I mean, is that new yet?
Speaker B:I have a job.
Speaker B:If you want to be with me.
Speaker C:Come on, man.
Speaker C:I just don't.
Speaker B:I just don't think it's any Different.
Speaker B:Different.
Speaker C:That is, it is different.
Speaker C:Contextually, it's different because.
Speaker C:Because the idea of saying, you've got to have a job if you want to be with me could really easily be construed as, hey, I'm looking for a breadwinner type of male, so I can be the domesticated woman in this situation.
Speaker C:But now these chicks are saying, I don't want from you.
Speaker C:If you got enough money.
Speaker C:Here we we go.
Speaker A:Can I.
Speaker A:Can I say, I think you stretched that just a little bit.
Speaker A:Like, I appreciate the definition.
Speaker C:I. I 100 will say, yeah, that's a stretch.
Speaker C:However, it was also an actual.
Speaker C:It's.
Speaker C:We talked about this earlier.
Speaker C:It was an accepted norm for women to not have to work for them to be looking for a male to be the breadwinner.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker B:And I also said that attitude was in the, you know, for 30s, 40s, 50s, 50s, in the 80s.
Speaker B:That's exactly what was going on.
Speaker B:But again, my thing is, I really don't think, like, you just said this.
Speaker B:There's nothing new under this, under the sun.
Speaker B:I think the difference now is it's just like, racism.
Speaker B:I don't think it's any more racism than it was 20 years ago.
Speaker B:I just think it's much more available for you to see examples.
Speaker B:And the same thing with sex.
Speaker B:It's like, like, it's everywhere and it's free and it's easy access.
Speaker B:When we were kids, all of us, when we were kids, it just didn't.
Speaker B:We just didn't have that kind of access, man.
Speaker B:We just did.
Speaker A:No, we did.
Speaker A:We did.
Speaker B:So that's what I mean by.
Speaker B:It's like, I don't know if it's any different than it was.
Speaker B:I just think it's much more available, that's all.
Speaker A:Gotcha.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Nikki shares.
Speaker A:Unfortunately, not everyone has a bad relationship reputation who had a bad reputation, earned it.
Speaker A:There are women sharing stories about how they've been sexually assaulted, quote, had a trade, unquote, because they only agreed to one person, but others forced themselves on her.
Speaker C:Oh, absolute truth.
Speaker C:Yeah, that is an absolute truth.
Speaker C:And I will say I'm not talking about women who didn't get an earned reputation because.
Speaker C:Because I get it at her.
Speaker C:Her scenario is perfectly reasonable.
Speaker C:And there's a lot of women who have similar stories to that.
Speaker C:I would simply say saying there were actual women who was just like, earned the reputation of, yeah, I have sex with a lot of people.
Speaker B:You're right about that part for sure.
Speaker A:And Melanie, fun size, I definitely agree, is everywhere.
Speaker A:Yeah, I Mean, yeah, I mean, but I want to.
Speaker A:I do want to go back to AG's cut.
Speaker A:Last comment.
Speaker A:I 1% agree with that.
Speaker A:Ag.
Speaker B:I don't know what you're talking about.
Speaker B:Which one?
Speaker A:I feel like you said that it's a little bit more accessible now.
Speaker B:Oh, absolutely.
Speaker B:I think that's all the difference.
Speaker A:Oh, most definitely.
Speaker B:And that leads into what I was gonna say too, which is hoes have.
Speaker B:They have mutated into something that's a lot more soft than just seeing somebody on the corner.
Speaker B:I think that.
Speaker B:That it's easier to be a hoe and be dope.
Speaker B:When we were kids, if you was a hoe, you was on the corner when it was like 30 degrees, talking about, you want to date.
Speaker B:Now you can be a hoe, and it's glamorous.
Speaker B:That leads into female empowerment.
Speaker B:We've talked about that on this show many times.
Speaker C:Well, it's just like what you said earlier.
Speaker C:You said, you know, the person that makes the most money has the juice.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And that's.
Speaker B:And again, that's still true, because how you look as a dude trying to be a husband in the true sense and then a dad when your wife makes a million dollars and you make nothing?
Speaker B:I mean, how do you do that?
Speaker B:I don't know how I would do that unless.
Speaker B:Unless.
Speaker B:I'm sorry to cut you off, but unless she allows it to happen, which is by and large never, ever correct, gonna.
Speaker B:A woman that makes more money than you, deferring to you.
Speaker B:They don't defer to you when they don't make any money, bruh.
Speaker B:Whoever has the most money wins.
Speaker B:So I'm just saying.
Speaker B:So I'm glad y' all brought that up because I forgot that I wanted to say that until you started talking.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:I mean, I think we should close this out.
Speaker A:I think Moby, one of the greatest lies that pimpy ever said.
Speaker C:Pimp just moved to the web.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker B:What it is, that access?
Speaker B:I mean, cuz, again, most pornography is easy access, and it's free.
Speaker A:So, Ag, what's on your mind, man?
Speaker B:Crab Rangoons.
Speaker B:If you ever have the chance.
Speaker B:Chance to make them yourself.
Speaker A:So random.
Speaker B:Oh, Jesus.
Speaker A:Oh, they're good.
Speaker B:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker B:I had some today.
Speaker A:I. I got.
Speaker B:I don't think I've ever had, man.
Speaker B:Next time, y' all get Chinese takeout.
Speaker A:Oh, it's great.
Speaker B:Get, get.
Speaker B:Get an order of them.
Speaker B:It's sour cream, green onion, soy sauce, garlic powder, crab, and a wonton wrap, deep fried.
Speaker B:Man, I'm Telling you, you.
Speaker B:Yo, so I made about 30 or 40.
Speaker B:Not about 30.
Speaker B:I think about 30.
Speaker B:And I had them.
Speaker B:I didn't even taste them at first.
Speaker B:And I.
Speaker B:You know, my wife had them.
Speaker B:She was like, yo, you put your foot in this.
Speaker B:And I.
Speaker B:Then I had him after I got, you know, got to a good place, and, man, they're so good.
Speaker B:So if y'.
Speaker C:All.
Speaker B:And I guess so you don't live here, And that lets me know that you don't live here.
Speaker C:Oh, man.
Speaker B:And plus, my wife's got a better rack than yours, so.
Speaker A:No, no, definitely.
Speaker A:I'm not.
Speaker A:I'm not sitting here.
Speaker A:I'm just saying, like, you could have slid something through or something, you know.
Speaker A:You know, I was here today, bruh.
Speaker B:You grown.
Speaker B:You're the homeowner, man.
Speaker B:You're.
Speaker B:You're like.
Speaker B:You're better than me.
Speaker B:Get it done.
Speaker A:I. Whoa, whoa, stop.
Speaker A:Whoa, whoa.
Speaker B:Stop that.
Speaker B:You want me to bring up that show?
Speaker A:Cooking is way better than mine.
Speaker C:Well, why.
Speaker B:Why is my cooking way better than your sister?
Speaker A:Because you awesome at it, and you work harder.
Speaker B:Because I burn stuff, and then I get better, and I don't burn it anymore.
Speaker A:Once again, you work.
Speaker B:Anyway, it's a.
Speaker B:It's a good snack if you.
Speaker B:I didn't even have dipping sauce, so if you got some duck sauce with it or you go buy it from the store, I'm telling you, they're good.
Speaker B:So if you're a big cream cheese person, if you like cream cheese, or you just like something, that's like the worst food for you ever.
Speaker B:But it tastes good.
Speaker B:Y' all get you some of them Crab Rangoon was off the chain, y'.
Speaker C:All.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's like four for, like, $7.
Speaker A:Man, that shit's expensive.
Speaker C:Is it?
Speaker B:I never knew they were that expensive.
Speaker B:Expensive.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's expensive.
Speaker B:They're much cheap.
Speaker B:They're much.
Speaker C:I mean, it's real crab meat, right?
Speaker B:Because, see, the.
Speaker C:Huh?
Speaker C:No.
Speaker C:Is it real crab meat?
Speaker B:Never ag.
Speaker B:No, not mine, because I. I wanted to make sure I did it traditionally first.
Speaker B:And in America, traditionally, Rangoons has imitation crab meat.
Speaker B:It's never real.
Speaker B:Now, I have heard of people doing it with real crab meat, and they.
Speaker B:They do say it tastes better.
Speaker A:Better.
Speaker B:But on average, if you just, you know, just pick a random Chinese joint, it's gonna be imitation crab.
Speaker A:For real.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Tops.
Speaker A:China ain't selling real crab.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:So that's kind of crazy.
Speaker C:I was thinking maybe that's why it's expensive.
Speaker B:Well, that's what I was Gonna say, because I didn't know they were expensive.
Speaker B:I thought it was like, egg rolls or something.
Speaker A:I mean, it's expensive because it's crap.
Speaker B:Well, yeah, okay, well, I bought.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker A:That's what happens.
Speaker B:I bought a pound of the imitation stuff for $5.
Speaker B:That's at Kroger.
Speaker B:So, you know, it ain't, you know, it ain't, you know, it ain't, you know, expensive.
Speaker A:First of all, you got a cruise for $5, you got a deal.
Speaker B:No, I'm telling you, man, imitation crab meat is really not that expensive.
Speaker A:Really?
Speaker B:No, it seems expensive, man.
Speaker B:It's a fraction of the.
Speaker B:For the real stuff.
Speaker B:But anyway, it's real good.
Speaker B:If you have the time and you want to try something new, it's off the chain.
Speaker B:I suggest you do it.
Speaker B:Not good for you, but it's good to you, I guess.
Speaker B:We're not here for a long time.
Speaker B:We're here for a good time.
Speaker B:So that's what's on my mind.
Speaker A:Awesome.
Speaker A:Awesome.
Speaker A:Mo B.
Speaker A:What's on your mind, man?
Speaker C:All right, man, Two things real quick.
Speaker C:So, first of all, my.
Speaker C:My daughter.
Speaker C:My daughters are just totally opposite ends of the spectrum.
Speaker C:So my youngest daughter, Reuben, I was on the phone with you.
Speaker C:My youngest daughter was gonna go get some food on Saturday.
Speaker C:No, Friday.
Speaker C:So I'm like, oh, snap.
Speaker C:You must have just got paid from your job.
Speaker C:What's up with some of that food?
Speaker C:I think she was going to Wingstop.
Speaker C:I'm like, yeah.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker C:She was going to get a chicken sandwich.
Speaker C:I'm like, yo, what's up with that?
Speaker C:What's up with that.
Speaker C:That food, baby?
Speaker C:Like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Get.
Speaker C:Get your boy Father's Day gift.
Speaker C:Father's Day chicken sandwich or something.
Speaker C:And she's like, it ain't Father's Day today.
Speaker C:And I'm just like, yo, I gotta do.
Speaker C:I'm like, on Father's Day, I gotta take you somewhere.
Speaker C:Like, I gotta take you hours away weight.
Speaker C:And she was like, yeah, I know, but it ain't Father's Day today.
Speaker C:And I'm just like.
Speaker A:She called.
Speaker B:She.
Speaker C:I'm like, your boy can't even.
Speaker C:I can't get none of the fries.
Speaker C:I can't get no chicken sandwich.
Speaker C:I can't get a couple wings.
Speaker C:I can't get.
Speaker C:No, but you.
Speaker A:But if you charge her to.
Speaker A:To take it in, you wrong.
Speaker C:So.
Speaker C:So I'm just like, dang, my youngest daughter cold.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker C:And then my oldest daughter, she.
Speaker C:She's like, yeah, it is father's Day this weekend, she runs downstairs with a gift, and she was like, open the gift.
Speaker C:I'm like, here.
Speaker C:It ain't Father's Day yet.
Speaker C:Like, I'mma see you on Father's Day.
Speaker C:She's like, oh, okay.
Speaker C:So I'm just like, how are my kids on such opposite ends of this spectrum here?
Speaker C:Like, well, one of my kids is like, man, you.
Speaker C:It ain't Father's Day.
Speaker C:Ain't nobody about to celebrate your ass.
Speaker C:And my other one's like, hey, yes, let me give you.
Speaker C:I'm like, yo, have I been two different people?
Speaker C:People to y'?
Speaker A:All?
Speaker C:Like, nah, man.
Speaker A:Youngest dog's a pimp, bro.
Speaker B:Well, in their defense, they are two different people.
Speaker C:I get that.
Speaker C:But I'm just like.
Speaker C:But just because they're two different people, why are they treating me like two different people?
Speaker B:Because they.
Speaker B:They two different people, man.
Speaker B:I mean, like, one of them see.
Speaker C:You like, you ain't jack.
Speaker B:And the other one's like, I love you.
Speaker C:So I woke up this morning, my oldest.
Speaker C:Happy Father's Day.
Speaker C:She hugs me.
Speaker C:And my youngest like, what are you doing?
Speaker C:Like, I'm standing.
Speaker C:She's like, what are you doing?
Speaker C:I'm in the way.
Speaker C:I'm just like, oh, my bad.
Speaker C:I move out the way.
Speaker C:And Kira's like, it's Father's Day.
Speaker C:And she was like.
Speaker C:Katie was like, I know.
Speaker C:And just kept moving.
Speaker C:I'm just like, God damn, man.
Speaker A:Yeah, she told us.
Speaker C:She told us.
Speaker C:I'm about to drive you two and a half hours away and drop you off for free, and I can't get.
Speaker C:I can't get a happy Father's Day.
Speaker B:You know that's part of our jobs, right?
Speaker B:I'm not even a dad.
Speaker B:But you know, that's part of your job, though, right?
Speaker C:Absolutely.
Speaker C:Because that's going to be my second part of this, but, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker A:See, why W.R. brown shooting shots, man?
Speaker B:But is she wrong?
Speaker B:Because I was gonna say that.
Speaker B:I mean, I thought the little of you, a little bit of you would have been proud that she that cold because you that cold, Right?
Speaker C:See, here's the thing.
Speaker C:I am not that cold.
Speaker B:Are you sure?
Speaker C:No, no, no, no.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I am not that cold.
Speaker C:When it's time to not be cold.
Speaker A:Cold.
Speaker C:She don't know how to turn that off.
Speaker B:Are you sure?
Speaker C:I wouldn't be married if I could be that cold all the time.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's true.
Speaker B:You're right.
Speaker B:You'd be by yourself if you was that cold all the time.
Speaker B:But for a person who doesn't value feelings?
Speaker B:I'm surprised at you, man.
Speaker C:I thought you were proud.
Speaker C:Hold up.
Speaker C:I wasn't.
Speaker C:I'm not actually hurt feelings wise.
Speaker C:I'm hurt principle wise.
Speaker A:I'm like, yes,.
Speaker B:They're not your feelings.
Speaker B:They're your principles.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:Nikki.
Speaker A:Nikki's like, treat me up.
Speaker A:Yo, bro, you can't be, like, shaded right now.
Speaker C:It's kind of fair.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I am not.
Speaker C:I am not out here playing victim.
Speaker C:I'm simply saying, no, no, no, no.
Speaker C:That.
Speaker C:That's why I'm prophesying.
Speaker C:I'm not trying to be a victim.
Speaker C:I. I started this by saying, it's just amazing to me, I.
Speaker C:How so far on the opposite end of the spectrum, they are.
Speaker C:And we're all in the same house.
Speaker C:We're all in the same house.
Speaker B:And one of them is just like,.
Speaker C:I can't wait to show you that I think you're awesome.
Speaker C:And the other one is just like, I wish you would get the fuck out of my face.
Speaker B:Is that what she wishes?
Speaker C:Oh, no.
Speaker C:Every time she sees me, I. I have to joke on my dog daughter to get her to respond to my presence.
Speaker A:Like, I usually.
Speaker C:I'm a counter puncher with joking, but I proactively joke to Cadence first.
Speaker A:Just to get her attention.
Speaker C:Just to get her attention.
Speaker C:No, no.
Speaker C:Cadence actually.
Speaker C:Cadence is actually a little bit better.
Speaker C:She's actually.
Speaker C:Cadence is better.
Speaker C:She still ain't.
Speaker C:She still ain't quite.
Speaker C:I mean, you know, I got years of experience.
Speaker C:You know, I got decades of practice, so it's unfair for me to be like, she ain't on my level.
Speaker C:But she's not.
Speaker C:But she got all the game.
Speaker A:Are you sure she's not?
Speaker C:Because she sounds like she's pretty good.
Speaker A:No, no, no.
Speaker C:She.
Speaker C:She's in it when she's.
Speaker C:She's on the level when it comes to being cold.
Speaker C:On the level, but just, you know, the wood and everything, she's still.
Speaker C:She's still building up her palette.
Speaker C:You know, she got the shade going.
Speaker A:Yeah, She's.
Speaker C:She's still working on, you know, the roots run deep, fruits run deep.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker C:So I. I have to apologize to some people in my life on Father's Day today, too, because I realized for most of Father's Day in my life, I've always joked about how don't nobody give a.
Speaker C:About dads.
Speaker C:And I just realized, like, I'm that person, too.
Speaker C:And what I mean by that is, like, I don't even value myself on Father's Day because Like, I, I wouldn't even let people do anything for me.
Speaker C:Like, I woke up this morning, I paused for a little while and then I was like, ah, I might as well go make myself something to eat.
Speaker C:So I made myself some breakfast.
Speaker C:My wife comes out, I was gonna make you breakfast.
Speaker C:And I'm thinking to myself, I mean, were you.
Speaker C:You're too slow maybe.
Speaker C:Like, I believe you cuz you said, said it.
Speaker B:I'm sorry.
Speaker B:I believe you because you said it.
Speaker C:I'm so sorry.
Speaker C:But here's the thing.
Speaker C:It's like, oh my goodness.
Speaker C:I know she would have, but I also was like, I didn't expect it.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:And that's not a fault on her.
Speaker C:That's like my own, like, no expectations of like anybody really giving a.
Speaker C:How it being Father Thursday?
Speaker C:We go out, you know, I drive, we drive, we go to a place and we're about to order some food.
Speaker C:Of course they can't decide on what they want.
Speaker C:So they're like, we're not going to order on the screen.
Speaker C:We're going to go up to the counter and talk to them.
Speaker C:And in my head I'm just like, yo, let's be efficient here.
Speaker C:I'm the one driving.
Speaker C:Let me just order my food on the screen real quick.
Speaker C:I get my order in first.
Speaker C:I get my order in first.
Speaker C:They do that order.
Speaker C:And then I just realized nobody was trying to buy me me lunch.
Speaker C:And I just, I totally stole that from her.
Speaker C:Cuz I'm trying to be efficient because I'm like, don't nobody give a about it being Father's Day.
Speaker C:I got to do, I'm doing, I'm doing my dad, which is being the chauffeur for the six hour drive today.
Speaker C:So I was just like, you know what?
Speaker C:I'm not even letting y' all do the dad.
Speaker C:What's up, Ruben?
Speaker A:Did she say she was gonna buy you lunch or she trying to surprise you by buying lunch?
Speaker C:She, she said it after I'd ordered my food because I guess she realized that I had already order food.
Speaker C:She was like, I was gonna get yours.
Speaker C:I was like, oh, but I already, I already ordered it and paid for it because.
Speaker A:And how long you been married?
Speaker C:Because all I was thinking was, well, if I get my food first, I can kind of eat while they're still waiting for their food.
Speaker C:So by the time they get their food, I can just start driving.
Speaker C:They can eat in the car, but I'm gonna be driving.
Speaker C:I can be done.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I'M I am in do dad mode.
Speaker C:Not in people are honoring dad today mode.
Speaker C:Well, that's why I'm saying so.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker C:No, see, Ruben, I see what you're doing.
Speaker C:You're doing the I would normally do, which is like, hey, y' all could have just made it known that y' all were gonna do.
Speaker C:But here's the thing.
Speaker C:She don't ever have to do that on Mother's Day.
Speaker C:She can proactively assume that ain't nobody gonna ask her to do.
Speaker C:And I guess I could have done the same thing today, but I stole that from them because I just was like, hey, I still got to do, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:I gotta drive these.
Speaker C:And then we had to drive.
Speaker C:I had to see a little bit more Virginia than I necessarily wanted to because.
Speaker C:Because apparently the address that we put in that I thought I was going to have to take her to was not the address that we were going to go to.
Speaker C:So after that hour and 45 minute drive, I had to not drive another two hours in the other direction to get to the place we were actually supposed to go.
Speaker C:But like I said, I'm in dad mode.
Speaker C:While these people are actually like, I actually have people in my life who do like, honor me and like say, hey, we really think, you know, it's, we're happy that you're here.
Speaker C:And I'm still in all that thunder because I'm just like, yeah, oh, that shit's cool, but let's get done.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like, I guess part of me is like, I probably should turn, you know, I should have had a sassy moment.
Speaker C:I should have had a sassy day where I should have just been like, time doesn't exist.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Because if I'd have been like, time doesn't exist, I wouldn't have been such in a mode to like, like get to the place on time.
Speaker C:I should have been like, hey, you know, it is what it is.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:If, if you're important, they'll wait.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:That's.
Speaker C:Yeah, I should, I should have had all the sassy thought.
Speaker C:I should have.
Speaker C:I should have done the equivalent of what I accuse her of doing anytime that we have somewhere to be and it's five minutes before we're supposed to be there and she's getting in the shower.
Speaker C:But I, I couldn't make myself turn, turn the, the me off.
Speaker C:So I can't, I can't get mad at other people for being like, father's Day ain't.
Speaker C:When I'm basically saying, I ain't gonna let these celebrate me today because they not celebrating me with the efficiency that I would celebrate them.
Speaker A:But this is.
Speaker A:But man, you've been married married for over 10 years.
Speaker A:If she don't know you by now, she should have known that.
Speaker A:She needs to, she needs to address ahead of time and be like, hey, I got you today.
Speaker A:Because it's not like you gonna change on one day.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker A:But she knows this.
Speaker A:That's all I'm saying.
Speaker C:All I'm saying is she knows this.
Speaker A:And she knows you.
Speaker C:You.
Speaker A:And she's.
Speaker A:I mean, I'm sorry and she gonna be mad, whatever.
Speaker A:But she gotta be.
Speaker A:She gotta be you for it for a second and realize, yeah, I gotta do things differently.
Speaker C:Reuben, what you're saying logically makes all the sense.
Speaker A:I don't.
Speaker C:I don't disagree with your logic not one bit.
Speaker C:You know what?
Speaker C:I would double negative, not nasty bit of disagreement is coming from me, however, because you are not entrenched in this game the way I am.
Speaker C:You don't understand that in this here game of, of like relationship that we play, the only person that is responsible to change the way they do things.
Speaker C:Things is me.
Speaker C:It is never her job to change the way she thinks or does anything.
Speaker C:Never.
Speaker A:See what I see, Moby.
Speaker A:I mean, I don't know what that means, but whatever.
Speaker C:Well, here's the thing.
Speaker C:I don't know what that means either.
Speaker C:It could have been a veiled threat.
Speaker C:I don't know.
Speaker C:I'll find out later.
Speaker A:On Father's Day.
Speaker C:Once again, I don't know.
Speaker C:Oh, or she could be saying, I see you as in, hey, I do see and appreciate you as the father figure in this life because I didn't let her do anything for me today.
Speaker C:Now, Reuben, you.
Speaker C:Reuben, you can say, well, she should have been quicker on the draw.
Speaker C:But I'll simply say that's not how works.
Speaker B:Like I will say to the non married guy here, I mean, that's fine.
Speaker A:Don't.
Speaker B:Just don't make the marriage guys lives miserable.
Speaker B:That's all I'll say.
Speaker C:In all fairness, I opened myself up for this because I could have just been like, hey, everybody was great to be on Father's.
Speaker C:I could have just lied up here.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker C:Bad to me.
Speaker C:But that's it.
Speaker C:Nobody was bad to me.
Speaker C:I simply said that the only reason that I didn't get 100% celebrated up here was because I kind of don't really give anybody the space to do that because I'm so entrenched in what technically I'm supposed to be doing as a father.
Speaker C:And honestly, it sounds terrible, but part of how I identify if I'm doing a decent job as a father is how miserable I am in the process of doing some of the things.
Speaker C:And I know that sounds terrible, but, like, we joke about it all the time.
Speaker C:I. I was like, hey, man, how many times I said, say hey?
Speaker C:The only thing I can't do in my house is look relaxed.
Speaker C:Because if I look relaxed, somebody gonna ask me to do so.
Speaker C:Exactly.
Speaker C:So once again, it's like I. I create a narrative in which the only way I'm being successful as being a father and everything is if, you know, there's a little bit of suffering in there, there's a little.
Speaker C:There's a little bit of misery in it.
Speaker C:You know what, man?
Speaker A:You're not trying to win a championship, Reuben.
Speaker C:I am.
Speaker C:I am.
Speaker C:You about, like, 90 of your things.
Speaker C:Like, I'm not happy as a father unless there's some I can complain about.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker C:Unless there's some I can just be like, oh, you.
Speaker C:Let me tell you this.
Speaker C:That's going on.
Speaker C:Like, I am not.
Speaker C:I don't even feel fully feel like a man if I can't basically say, let me tell you some.
Speaker C:That's going on in my house right now.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:Hey.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker C:Yeah, man.
Speaker C:So all.
Speaker C:To all the people who have men in their lives like me, like.
Speaker C:Like Reuben said, you got to be quick on the draw with your appreciation.
Speaker A:You got.
Speaker A:You got.
Speaker C:I mean, you got to.
Speaker C:You got slap their ass with that before they have a chance to get moving.
Speaker C:Because once I get my momentum of, like, doing all the.
Speaker C:That I'm gonna about later on.
Speaker C:Like, it's too late now.
Speaker A:Oh, wait a minute.
Speaker A:Hey, babe, I was gonna make you breakfast.
Speaker A:Hey, babe, I can help you drive.
Speaker A:No, I got it.
Speaker A:Hey, babe, I was gonna get lunch.
Speaker A:No, I got it.
Speaker C:Hey, she ain't lying.
Speaker C:Nothing she said is false.
Speaker A:Blah, blah, blah.
Speaker A:Hey, you know what?
Speaker A:And all I'm saying is it'd be different if y' all just got married like, five years ago.
Speaker A:Y' all been with each other almost 20 goddamn years.
Speaker A:Like, you know.
Speaker A:Know you.
Speaker A:If she don't know you by now, you're not wrong.
Speaker C:K knew.
Speaker A:Kieran knew.
Speaker A:Hey, you got up.
Speaker A:Up.
Speaker A:Happy Father's Day.
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker A:Boom, boom, boom.
Speaker A:You stepped out the.
Speaker A:You stepped out the room.
Speaker A:You got attacked.
Speaker A:Kira Understands.
Speaker A:That's all I'm saying.
Speaker A:I'm just.
Speaker A:I'm dropping this again.
Speaker C:You're not wrong, but I'm simply saying all those things she said are absolute truth.
Speaker C:Like if, If I.
Speaker C:If I were to come up here and say, if y' all would have just asked me point blank, like, hey, what they do for you on Father's Day?
Speaker C:My honest answer could be, anybody really do for me today.
Speaker C:And that would sound awful because it wouldn't be put in context.
Speaker C:It would not be put in context.
Speaker A:At all that'll make it any less true.
Speaker C:But context matters.
Speaker C:Context actually matters.
Speaker C:That's all I'm saying, man.
Speaker C:So all the people who have men in their lives like me and you tried to honor them and they did the push off, like, hey, n n. It ain't about me.
Speaker C:I'm sorry.
Speaker B:I'm sorry.
Speaker A:We like that.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:I stop giving your wife to Heisman, bro.
Speaker A:Stop giving your wife the husband.
Speaker C:I did.
Speaker C:I did.
Speaker A:All day.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker C:All day was stiff arming the.
Speaker C:Out of her.
Speaker C:I was Derrick Henry, she was a little cornerback.
Speaker C:And I was just saying, get the off me as I ran for 80 yards and scored.
Speaker C:So, yeah, man, I gotta do better.
Speaker C:I will say on this Father's Day, I have decided that I will do next Father's Day.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I'm going to wake up and I'm going to be the softest, sassy, stretching spectator ever on Father's Day.
Speaker A:And then ain't gonna do.
Speaker A:So it's like, what the hell?
Speaker C:But you know what?
Speaker C:Then I will earn that.
Speaker C:Ain't nobody do for me today.
Speaker C:I didn't earn that today.
Speaker C:I stole it.
Speaker C:I stole that.
Speaker A:He's just like this guy.
Speaker C:That's it, man.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker A:So, of course, for the non married, non kid guy here, this thing got do with me.
Speaker A:Cash it to my father.
Speaker A:You know, happy Father Day, my dad.
Speaker A:But for me, it's another day, man.
Speaker A:It's another day.
Speaker A:But what I have learned is something's wrong with me.
Speaker C:So.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:And I say that because I realized that not having.
Speaker A:I mean, other than basic stuff, you know, you worry about bills, all that, like, I really don't have a serious outlet for some things.
Speaker A:So I have gone backwards and gone back to something that has always made me happy, and that's music videos.
Speaker A:Music videos have always made me happy just because I'm a visual person.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A: e Samsung TV and like channel: Speaker A:It's like 20 channels of music videos.
Speaker A:You know, there's only like three black channels and like 15 country channels.
Speaker A:But whatever.
Speaker A:That's a different point for a different day.
Speaker A:Yo man, I just, my, my especially today, I really just absorbed a lot of different music today.
Speaker A:I mean I. I hear something.
Speaker A:Huh.
Speaker A:Pull out my Spotify like songs.
Speaker A:Boom.
Speaker A:You know, I just.
Speaker A:Yeah, man, it.
Speaker A:It's good and it's bad and it's good because I mean I'm.
Speaker A:I'm already pretty electric eclectic anyway.
Speaker A:I got a whole bunch of different in my Spotify.
Speaker A:My Spotify looks like.
Speaker A:You know when people throw just paint at a mural all over the place?
Speaker A:It looks like that.
Speaker A:It's all over the place except for classical.
Speaker A:I ain't got none of that bullshit in there.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Movie.
Speaker C:Is this like your soft way of trying to admit you were listening to some Drake today?
Speaker A:Hell no.
Speaker C:Okay, man.
Speaker B:Don't you ever do that to me again.
Speaker C:Three albums at one time, man.
Speaker C:He's bound to drop at least one that you was like.
Speaker C:It's kind of.
Speaker B:And here's.
Speaker A:Here's the crazy thing about that.
Speaker A:He dropped three albums.
Speaker A:I haven't heard a track from any of them.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't care.
Speaker A:I don't normally listen.
Speaker C:It's a safe.
Speaker C:That I don't listen to space man.
Speaker A:Safe space my ass.
Speaker A:I don't care.
Speaker A:Like I don't really listen to terrestrial radio because most of it's terrible.
Speaker A:And so you know, I looked at some hits today to see what else else out here.
Speaker A:A couple things caught me.
Speaker A:Couple country songs caught me.
Speaker A:You know.
Speaker A:Moby, I completely agree with you for sure today 100 that what's his name, the dude you said is the new Kid.
Speaker A:Kid Rock.
Speaker C:Post Malone.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:He is the new Kid Rock by far.
Speaker A:And it gets worse.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker A:Like listening to tracks with other people on it actually makes me like his older stuff which I didn't like at all phenomena.
Speaker C:White dudes rapping at first to get fame and then as they start to get a little bit of fame name they trans.
Speaker C:They slowly transition.
Speaker C:The country jelly roll did it.
Speaker C:He started off around.
Speaker C:He was signed with three six Mafia in them.
Speaker A:Like I didn't know that the man lost £200 and now he divorced his wife country man.
Speaker C:Cuz she.
Speaker C:Cuz she thought she married a real.
Speaker C:I'm sorry, go ahead.
Speaker B:I'm sorry.
Speaker C:Go ahead.
Speaker B:That was hilarious.
Speaker B:That was cold.
Speaker B:Let's go, man.
Speaker B:It was funny, but that was cold.
Speaker A:You probably ain't wrong, though.
Speaker A:But that's funny.
Speaker A:So you know.
Speaker A:Yeah, man.
Speaker A:And look, man, I am throwing a shot Post Malone, bro.
Speaker A:Do you have anything else in your wardrobe other than a goddamn CD Lamb jersey?
Speaker A:Can you wear something else?
Speaker A:Like, for God's sake, man, I know you rich and you probably got 100 in business, but can you wear another piece of clothing other than CD Lamb Journey?
Speaker A:Every video has him in a CD Lamb.
Speaker A:Dirty.
Speaker A:Like, he's a wwe.
Speaker A:He's a CD Lamb Journey.
Speaker A:Like, wear something else.
Speaker C:Sorry.
Speaker C:I really like CD Lamb.
Speaker C:And he's a cop.
Speaker A:I don't give a damn, man.
Speaker A:Put on another shirt.
Speaker C:Why are you so upset?
Speaker A:Why?
Speaker A:Why?
Speaker C:Hold on.
Speaker C:So his.
Speaker C:His cultural appropriation, all the other stuff don't make you mad, but you put it on a CD Lamb jersey too many times.
Speaker A:Oh, no, no, no.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker A:No, I said at the beginning with you.
Speaker C:You didn't get passionate about.
Speaker C:You didn't get passionate and loud about your hate until you started talking about a particular piece of clothing the man was wearing.
Speaker A:I mean, we all know that I'm not a cowboy fan.
Speaker A:Like, yeah, that's a shot.
Speaker A:That's an easy shot, and I took it.
Speaker A:There you go.
Speaker A:But back to the quick story.
Speaker A:But, yeah, man, I've absorbed a lot of.
Speaker A:A lot of music, you know, especially today, because I didn't watch any World cup today.
Speaker A:I didn't watch any sports center.
Speaker A:I didn't watch anything but videos.
Speaker A:It was kind of interesting, actually, you know?
Speaker A:So with that being said, hey, man, you always have a first love other than a significant other every once in a while.
Speaker A:Go.
Speaker A:If you're not constantly in it, go back to it because it reminds you how much you loved it.
Speaker A:It reminded me how much I love 80s music.
Speaker A:Even though there's a part of my life I couldn't stand that shit, you know, most.
Speaker A:That shit's not that bad.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:I said it on air.
Speaker A:It's on wax.
Speaker A:Because I've been saying that Asian music.
Speaker C:Is terrible, and you've been wrong the entire time, and I'm not.
Speaker A:Hey, man, everybody's wrong every now and then.
Speaker A:But, you know, hey, once again, everybody.
Speaker A:Everybody can apologize and.
Speaker A:And fix the story.
Speaker A:So, yeah, man, just.
Speaker A:It does.
Speaker A:It doesn't have to be music.
Speaker A:It could just be whatever.
Speaker A:Just if you used to paint all the time, hey, man, just get a bunch of paint in.
Speaker A:Go paint some.
Speaker A:Like, just be in your world.
Speaker A:Because everybody has their own world that a lot of people don't get to See, and sometimes it is just good just to be in your own world just for a little bit.
Speaker A:It keeps you sane, it keeps you honest and it just keeps you you.
Speaker A:So that is my point for all this today.
Speaker A:With that being said, we ah yeah, Moby saw that Post Malone thing years ago.
Speaker A:K. Bakker.
Speaker A:Yeah, I'm pretty sure he saw that and other stuff.
Speaker A:So with that being said, I'd like to thank everybody for listening to the show today.
Speaker A:As you know, we're here on Sunday nights, 9:00pm Eastern Standard Time.
Speaker A:Tell a friend, tell the enemy.
Speaker A:Just tell somebody about us.
Speaker A:Hey, I mean it's the summer, we still here here.
Speaker A:And honestly, if you're a teacher, you ain't gotta go to work tomorrow.
Speaker A:So shout out to you summer out there.
Speaker A:It's hot as balls.
Speaker A:Make sure your AC on.
Speaker A:Don't be messing up.
Speaker A:Go on vacation.
Speaker A:Have some fun.
Speaker A:Once again, do something for yourself.
Speaker A:Because when you do something for yourself, it makes everybody else enjoy being around you more because you're calm, cool, collected, that sort of thing.
Speaker A:Hey, once again, next Sunday we'll be here 9:00pm Eastern Standard Time.
Speaker A:Thank you to JTD Creations.
Speaker A:Once again, you need a shirt, you need some clothes, you need a a Stanley cup with your name on it.
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