Episode 322
Episode 322: Exploring the Taboo: Open Relationships in Today's Society
This podcast episode delves into the intricacies of open relationships, a subject often considered taboo within various communities, particularly the black community. We examine the growing prevalence of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, while acknowledging the societal stigmas that often lead to underreporting of such relationships. As we navigate this complex terrain, we discuss the emotional ramifications and trust required for open relationships to function effectively. Our conversation also addresses the cultural dynamics that influence the acceptance of non-traditional relationship structures. Ultimately, we aim to foster a deeper understanding of these modern relational choices, challenging preconceived notions and encouraging open dialogue.
Transcript
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Speaker B:This week on the five minute warning,.
Speaker C:The open relationship is.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I'm doing stuff with you and you know that I'm doing stuff with them and she knows that I'm doing stuff with you and everybody cool with it.
Speaker C:Yeah, different thing.
Speaker C:I mean, I hope you're just not describing hoeing because, like, you know, anybody can hope.
Speaker A:There's.
Speaker C:There's no number requirement on hoeing.
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Speaker B:It's Reuben, Mo B.
Speaker B:And on the ones and twos, kg,.
Speaker A:The five minute warning.
Speaker A:Welcome, everyone, to a brand new episode of five minute warning.
Speaker A:As always, this your man who keeps stereotypes alive with his orange soda Ruben in the house.
Speaker A:And of course, always with me is my cousin Ag.
Speaker B:What's happening, y'?
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Speaker A:How you doing?
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Speaker A:Man.
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Speaker A:You know, it's Mother's Day.
Speaker A:It was a great day out there today.
Speaker A:So I hope everyone enjoyed their Mother's Day to the best of their ability.
Speaker A:And I hope there are a whole bunch of moms who did not work out there today.
Speaker A:But I understand somebody, somebody gotta keep the lights on sometimes, so the job's gotta get done.
Speaker A:So for those mothers who also work today, another.
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Speaker A:So, man, craz week.
Speaker A:But we're gonna get into something a little different today, right?
Speaker A:You know, we have decided that we're gonna change things up a little bit like we always do.
Speaker A:You know, we like to reinvent ourselves and to make ourselves better and try to do better for everyone out there, things as such.
Speaker A:So today we're gonna just go ahead and jump into it, man.
Speaker A:I'm.
Speaker A:I'm interested in this topic as far as like, what, what you think ag.
Speaker A:Because it's.
Speaker A:This is probably, probably the most taboo topic we've ever talked about.
Speaker A:We've talked about some stuff here.
Speaker A:So we gonna go ahead and.
Speaker A:And we will go ahead and jump into it.
Speaker A:You know, ladies gentlemen, this is not Dr. Phil, ladies gentlemen, this is not any type of sex stories or anything like that, but it's really important in relationships that we talk about certain things that are important to at least one party, probably both.
Speaker A:And of course, sex is one of those things.
Speaker A:So today what we're going to talk about is something very simple, yet once again, like I said, very taboo.
Speaker A:Now already know I'm going to get the whole hate, hate, hate when I say it.
Speaker A:But you know what?
Speaker A:Hey, it is what it is.
Speaker A:Let's just get it done, you know.
Speaker A:So today we are going to talk about open relationships, especially over relationships.
Speaker A:What are people, black people?
Speaker A:Now, with that being said, of course, once again, a little taboo.
Speaker A:We have never really talked about things like this before.
Speaker A:I think we might have hinted around and jumped around it, you know, play a little hopscotch.
Speaker A:But we've never really said, boom, let's go.
Speaker A:So today we're gonna.
Speaker A:Let's go.
Speaker A:And what I want to do, I want to do some research on it first because, you know, everybody understands before we get our feelings into it, let's get some facts out here.
Speaker A:All right, so from.
Speaker A:From Google, because, you know, Google be.
Speaker A:Be at least telling everybody what.
Speaker A:Now, there is no precise up to date data on the exact number of black couples in open relationships.
Speaker A:Now, they do say it's very limited, and research suggests that it is growing, yet often discreet.
Speaker A:Basically, people out here doing it, but nobody ain't talking about it because, you know, the majority of relationships in the black community is monogamous.
Speaker A:Oh, shit.
Speaker A:Oh, you know, monogamous.
Speaker A:Or at least they come off as being monogamous.
Speaker A:And I'm gonna put it out there just like that.
Speaker A:I'm gonna drop it, walk away, right?
Speaker A:Because yes, you can sit here and say, yeah, man, that's my boo.
Speaker A:But we, we got other booze out there too.
Speaker A:Well, some people got other booze out there.
Speaker A:So you Know we're gonna do this.
Speaker A:We're gonna do this right, right, right, Ag.
Speaker A:We ain't.
Speaker A:We ain't about to lie to nobody.
Speaker A: percent of participants in a: Speaker A:You know, with, you know, basically it's kind of growing, as it were.
Speaker A:But once again, nobody ain't talking about that.
Speaker A:That's not coming up in the family.
Speaker A:In the, in the family cookouts or nothing.
Speaker A:Yo, man, how many chicks you been with this month?
Speaker A:Ah, man, I saw a couple.
Speaker A:That conversation ain't happening with married people.
Speaker A:Let's just.
Speaker A:It just ain't happening.
Speaker A:Now there are some key find to open relationships in the black community.
Speaker A:Despite all the stigmas and strong cultural ties to monogamy, traditional marriage and monogamy, there is a noted uptick in African Americans exploring ethical non monogamy and polyamory.
Speaker A:Now the.
Speaker A:One of the biggest people that we know who has really come out and said, hey, I got like four wives, is Neo.
Speaker A:Neo's come out and say, I got like four wives.
Speaker B:I did not know that.
Speaker A:Oh, you didn't?
Speaker B:I did not.
Speaker A:People talk every time he's on a show.
Speaker A:I swear, any interview within the last 10 years, they always bring it up.
Speaker A:Because once again, in the black community, that ain't a thing.
Speaker A:You think?
Speaker A:Well, you're right because.
Speaker B:Because I have a lot to say about that.
Speaker B:I have a lot to say about that part of it.
Speaker A:We got somebody here who ain't talking about it, but whatever, whatever.
Speaker A:And so yeah, as far as there.
Speaker A:There are a lot of people and I say a lot.
Speaker A:I guess that 4% number is kind of, you know, is number wise, is a lot.
Speaker A:The percent, not a lot.
Speaker A:But yeah, Neo is.
Speaker A:If I'm correct, Neo has like three or four wives, which is.
Speaker A:I mean, I'm glad he makes a lot of money and I'm glad he makes a lot of hit songs because if he had it, he'd be broke.
Speaker A:So he'd just be like, you know, it's basic.
Speaker A:I'm surprised.
Speaker A:Well, not surprised.
Speaker A:I'm actually really glad that Neil hasn't come out with a TV show because we already had the Sister Wives TV show.
Speaker A:Lord knows that's all we need.
Speaker A:Neil and his four wives up there.
Speaker A:What's going on, Moby?
Speaker B:What's up?
Speaker C:Chilling, man.
Speaker A:Ah, man.
Speaker A:So like I said, we've already, we've already started getting into the, the topic this week of over relationships.
Speaker A:And I was just basically going over some stats.
Speaker A:You know, we want to get the facts out the way before we start talking about feelings, because I think a lot of feelings are going to happen.
Speaker A:Maybe not from our end, but you never know.
Speaker A:Now, surveys indicate that open relationships are gaining traction with some studies showing around 38% of men and 31% of women of various backgrounds considering anomal monogamous arrangement to be ideal.
Speaker A:Now, of course, many black couples in open relationships keep them private due to societal stigmas and traditional views often leading to underreporting.
Speaker A:Yeah, like I said earlier, you not at the, at the family cookout talking about, you know, all the, all the women that you are having sex, all the other married women you're having sex with or you're, you're swinging with or nothing like that.
Speaker A:At least as far as I know, I haven't been part of those conversations.
Speaker A:I'm not saying they don't exist, I'm just saying I haven't been part of those conversations.
Speaker A:However, platforms such as Field F, E L D have reported a 500 surge in users incorporating items incorporating terms such as ethically non monogamous and polyamorous in their profiles over the recent years.
Speaker A:So basically what they're saying is from, you know, at least what Google's saying is, hey, right now we don't really know how many people doing this shit because nobody out here talking about it.
Speaker A:Well, obviously you know that because of all the stigmas.
Speaker A:And you know, I can't imagine you bringing, you being Neil and bringing four wives to the cookout like that bite.
Speaker C:Is it just stigma though?
Speaker C:Because, I mean, look, I know, I know you're approaching it from, it's just a stigma reason, but it's also dangerous to be open about that, not just because of the stigma, but also because of the amount of hate you going to get.
Speaker C:Not even a stigma.
Speaker C:Like you going to have a lot of haters in the room, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like, look, there, there's going to be some brothers looking at you like, hey dog, you doing it.
Speaker C:And there's going to be something like how the that doing it.
Speaker A:Especially if they, especially if they all.
Speaker A:Fine, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker C:Like there's going to be a lot of hate out there.
Speaker C:Like, it ain't going to just be negative, judgmental stigma.
Speaker C:It's going to be a whole bunch of.
Speaker C:I wish I could figure out how to do that.
Speaker A:And so Moby, did you know that Neil has like four wives?
Speaker A:Did you know that?
Speaker C:Is it four?
Speaker C:I know it's three or four.
Speaker C:I know he was Engaged with.
Speaker C:He was doing stuff with two or three women.
Speaker C:But, you know, you know what?
Speaker C:That's also a lot of none of my fucking business.
Speaker C:I don't care.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker C:The stigma that you're talking about, like, does exist because there's a lot of judgmental people, there's a lot of angry fisters, and a whole bunch of, you, the Hellers out there.
Speaker C:But I don't care, because at the end of the day, I'm just like, hey, man, do what works for you.
Speaker C:Do what makes you happy.
Speaker C:And as long as it ain't putting spoiled milk in my cereal, I'm good.
Speaker A:She's trying to hold it back, man.
Speaker A:You can't do it.
Speaker B:All right.
Speaker A:Aggressive.
Speaker A:I mean, so we got some.
Speaker A:We got some of the facts out the way, right?
Speaker C:Sure.
Speaker A:And Moby has started talking about some people's feelings.
Speaker A:So, I mean, let's talk about it, man.
Speaker A:We talk about, like.
Speaker A:We talk about everything else.
Speaker A:So, Ag, what are your thoughts on it, on open relationships as a.
Speaker A:As a whole thing, not just for black people, but then express how you feel as far as our community with that.
Speaker B:Well, this is one of the times, first of all, everything Mo said is correct because a lot of the times I look at stuff and I don't personally agree.
Speaker B:So it's like, it ain't none of my business anyway, and it doesn't pay my rent, so whatever.
Speaker B:Do you.
Speaker B:You like it?
Speaker B:I love it.
Speaker B:That's kind of how I approach it.
Speaker B:But in my mind, to myself, I'm like, no, no, sir.
Speaker B:Don't feed into a lot of things about you that aren't good.
Speaker B:It's just not good.
Speaker B:Now, am I Bible thumping right now?
Speaker B:I don't think I'm Bible thumping yet in these relationships.
Speaker B:Ultimately, the thing that you think of right away, when you think of polyamorous relationships or swingers or whatever, they all.
Speaker B:They all have the same demise.
Speaker B:I don't think most people can handle a throuple or, you know, four or five, whatever it is, because ultimately, somebody's going to catch feelings past what the rules are, past this level of human sophistication that I don't think is real.
Speaker B:So it's like, yeah, I'm kind of shaking my head, personally, I'll never, ever do it.
Speaker B:Not ever.
Speaker B:It's too much.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So let me.
Speaker A:Okay, I'm gonna stop you for a second because that's a very.
Speaker A:That's a very pointed statement.
Speaker A:All right?
Speaker A:Like, you'll never, ever do it.
Speaker A:And I'm very fine with that you do you like.
Speaker A:I don't care.
Speaker A:I'm with both of y' all on that.
Speaker A:None of that anything to do with me, as long as not with the person I mess with.
Speaker A:Like, that's what.
Speaker A:That's what it is.
Speaker A:So, you know, we.
Speaker A:We've talked.
Speaker A:We've kind of talked about the.
Speaker A:The wife situation.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:We.
Speaker A:We've mentioned the ride situation.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker A:But I. I would like to introduce the other situation.
Speaker A:You know, with open relationships, as far as, you know, hey, I mean, you both can have sex with any.
Speaker A:You know, in some.
Speaker A:You know, there are some rules sometimes, which I would hope people would have rules on how you deal with things like that.
Speaker A:But I agree with what you said, right?
Speaker A:You gotta.
Speaker A:You gotta have a certain type of.
Speaker A:I don't know if I want to say maturity, but I think it's just a lot more trust and love in the person that you're with.
Speaker A:Because let's just.
Speaker A:If we gonna be.
Speaker A:If we gonna be 100, there are people who are in a relationship such.
Speaker A:And the other person don't know.
Speaker B:So, I mean, if they don't know, that's not what we're talking about.
Speaker B:That's not the question we're talking about.
Speaker B:Everybody is involved.
Speaker B:Everybody knows.
Speaker B:Now you're talking about adultery or cheating.
Speaker B:That's different.
Speaker C:Let's laser focus here.
Speaker A:I understand that.
Speaker A:I understand.
Speaker A:I'm just putting it out there.
Speaker A:But, you know, once again, when we talk over relationships, that's necessarily just not having multiple wives.
Speaker A:Maybe it's just having multiple partners, but, you know, there's some other, you know, underlining things with that.
Speaker A:So, I mean, like, clearly you.
Speaker A:You said that you ain't about none of that, and that's very fine.
Speaker A:I guess my question would be, is that something.
Speaker A:Is that more because of the way you've brought up, you've been brought up, or is that more just because of safety?
Speaker B:It's neither.
Speaker B:It's me.
Speaker B:But I want to finish my point.
Speaker B:Percentage wise, the reason why black people come out, like, with clean hands on this is because black people are, you know, we don't discuss mental issues, we don't discuss problems, and we certainly don't discuss sex in an alternative way.
Speaker B:And I think culturally, from the outside looking in, people don't think black people do this because now we're talking about something that I think human beings do.
Speaker B:They feed into certain appetites, what have you.
Speaker B:But black people, the way in which we traverse our, you know, amongst ourselves, we don't talk about a lot of things.
Speaker B:If it's uncomfortable and it's not race, we don't talk about it historically and typically.
Speaker B:So I'm like, that's the part where being black, we are hiding behind whiteness because we, we associate alternative or deviant behavior with white folks almost exclusively.
Speaker B:And that's true.
Speaker B:No one's 100% anything.
Speaker B:So for me, it's like, you know, we out here riding dirty because we're not being truthful.
Speaker B:I think the percentages with, with human appetites like this, I think the percent percentages most of the time are across the board.
Speaker B:Asian, Jewish, black, white, whatever you are, you have some deviant in you.
Speaker B:Okay, now having said that, the reason why I said, you know, because you had asked the question, you're like, is upbringing or is it safety with stuff like this?
Speaker B:I am not even concerned about safety necessarily because I'm answering the question in a really organic way because this is about appetites as far as I'm concerned.
Speaker B:So for me, I know me, what that means is I cannot handle feeling like there is somebody out there that is better for the person I'm in love with or the person that I love sleeping with than me.
Speaker B:Do I understand that to be true?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:But I also know if you let your partner run the street, and this is essentially to me, to me, this is essentially running the street because you're experiencing other things, eventually that person will find somebody that's better than you.
Speaker B:And once they do, especially if you're talking about a woman, because sometimes women will get the best option and take off.
Speaker B:Sometimes, not all the time, but, you know, typically that can happen.
Speaker B:So I'm like, do I want that?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:Now, for me, I don't want to figure out some things about myself that were always there that didn't need to be in my life for good reason.
Speaker B:And now it's there.
Speaker B:Now I have to deal with it.
Speaker B:And now I might have a partner that can't do it for me.
Speaker B:Now I'm in these streets again and breaking all the rules that were set up so between me not having enough rigidity and enough coldness to be like, like, do what you want to do.
Speaker B:I don't care, whatever.
Speaker B:And me understanding that, Me understanding myself well enough to know that I just cannot deal with this day to day.
Speaker B:For me, it's a bad, bad situation.
Speaker B:Because again, I've said this on a show about porn.
Speaker B:Porn is one of those things that I can understand is detriment, just because porn will wake up some things in you that you didn't know that you had.
Speaker B:And once it's awake, it doesn't go to sleep.
Speaker B:You have to deal with it.
Speaker B:And it could be really bad.
Speaker B:It could be really bad.
Speaker B:You could be somebody.
Speaker B:You could be like Clark Kent.
Speaker B:And once you get in that phone booth, it's over.
Speaker B:But the sad thing is, you can't go back to being Clark Kent.
Speaker B:You are Superman 24 7, and now you have to deal with it.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So all of those things, once you start delving into things that are outside of.
Speaker B:Outside of the construct of a monogamous relationship, you have to be prepared for things that you don't know that you like or don't like.
Speaker B:And you have to be prepared emotionally.
Speaker B:Can you handle somebody being better than you?
Speaker B:Not even really better than you, but just better suited for one of your partners and vice versa.
Speaker B:Can that person that you're in this relationship with handle you going, well, not really into this.
Speaker B:I'll do it, but I'm not really into this because this other person.
Speaker B:Whoa.
Speaker A:Can you.
Speaker B:Can that other person handle that?
Speaker B:Can the third person or the fourth person handle all these things?
Speaker B:So that's where I'm coming from.
Speaker B:It's not necessarily my upbringing, and it's not necessarily safety, but for me, it's just, like, when I look at it in total understanding who I am as a person.
Speaker B:There's no way, bro.
Speaker B:No way.
Speaker B:No way.
Speaker B:And honestly, I like coming home the same woman.
Speaker B:I promise you, I love being a person of habit.
Speaker B:I promise you, I do.
Speaker B:There's no woman out there that I'm looking at going, yeah, that's nice.
Speaker B:No, I don't.
Speaker B:Don't get me wrong.
Speaker B:I mean, if you see a nice woman with a nice rack or nice butt, whatever, that's not what I'm talking about.
Speaker B:I 100% never are.
Speaker B:Like, I don't want to come home to Lauren at all.
Speaker B:100%.
Speaker B:I want to be with her exclusively until it's over with.
Speaker B:And when I say over with, I mean, somebody died.
Speaker B:And I waited long enough to understand what I wanted and needed, what I was willing to sacrifice, what I would really wasn't really willing to, you know, you know, deal breakers, all.
Speaker B:Every.
Speaker B:She checked all the boxes.
Speaker B:So I'm like, so that.
Speaker B:That's part of it too.
Speaker B:So when.
Speaker B:When I saw the question, I was like, oh, this is gonna be easy, because there's no way I'm doing it.
Speaker B:I'm just not for.
Speaker B:Though for that one reason and for all the other reasons, you know, for myself.
Speaker B:I just know who I am.
Speaker B:I'm just.
Speaker B:I'm not built for.
Speaker B:For it.
Speaker B:You have to be a certain.
Speaker B:Like when we was talking about pimps can't do it.
Speaker B:I'm not that person.
Speaker B:I cannot.
Speaker B:You can perform the action.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:But no, I just can't do it.
Speaker B:So that's.
Speaker B:That's my full answer.
Speaker A:All right, cool.
Speaker A:Cool.
Speaker A:Brett said he's been in over relationship.
Speaker A:He said it was cool.
Speaker A:She moved and it was over.
Speaker A:I mean, he.
Speaker A:Well, if.
Speaker A:If that ain't cut and dry, I don't know what is right there, player Moby thoughts?
Speaker C:First of all, totally unrelated, I promise.
Speaker C:I get back, but this is a.
Speaker C:So this is so random of a topic for Mother's Day.
Speaker C:Just.
Speaker A:Just.
Speaker C:Just had to throw that out there.
Speaker C:Like, you know what we're gonna talk about on Mother's Day?
Speaker C:What happens when one chick ain't enough.
Speaker A:For your ass or around.
Speaker A:We.
Speaker C:We.
Speaker A:We're equal opportunity here, man.
Speaker C:I'm just saying, as.
Speaker C:As AG Was talking.
Speaker C:As AG was talking, I was just like, man, this is quite an interesting topic to talk about on this day.
Speaker A:Didn't even think about it.
Speaker B:Didn't even think about it.
Speaker B:Hey, Reuben, you did this, sir.
Speaker A:I'm not saying I didn't.
Speaker C:I'll stay.
Speaker C:I'll stay on task, like.
Speaker A:And nobody said, hey, you sure you do Is on Mother's Day.
Speaker A:Thanks for looking out.
Speaker C:You like it?
Speaker C:I love it, bro.
Speaker C:Like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Like, and we all know what that means.
Speaker C:I'm just saying, like, so I understand in principle why it's becoming a popular topic.
Speaker C:Becoming a popular choice.
Speaker C:I also agree with you that there's never going to be accurate numbers on it, because I don't think it's a new fad.
Speaker C:I think it's kind of always been there.
Speaker C:Just nobody was really talking about it.
Speaker C:And the only time you thought about swingers, it was always old, wrinkly white people that was doing, like, the nudist type.
Speaker C:When you think about it back in the day, that's only people you thought about doing it.
Speaker C:So that's.
Speaker C:That's why, as AG said, it's kind of like, you know, kind of hiding behind the cultural differences.
Speaker C:It's like, nah, man.
Speaker C:It's.
Speaker C:It's kind of always been there.
Speaker A:Real quick.
Speaker A:I'm sorry to interrupt.
Speaker A:I just want.
Speaker A:I. I don't know if y' all know.
Speaker A:Y' all know we have a.
Speaker A:A nudist colony in Virginia, right?
Speaker B:I think I heard something about that.
Speaker B:I Think.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker C:None of my business, bro.
Speaker B:They don't pay my rent.
Speaker B:Let it hang, bro.
Speaker B:Let it hang.
Speaker A:I mean, that's all they do, baby.
Speaker B:None of my business.
Speaker B:They do not pay my rent.
Speaker B:Them.
Speaker B:Them sagging, whatever is don't pay my rent.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker C:But I guess I'll approach this from two things.
Speaker C:Like, I'll.
Speaker C:I'm in large part in agreements with AG as far as, like, you know, why it's a detrimental thing.
Speaker C:But my thing is like, honestly, I think it's just the idea of it is too utopian to be successful because like, look, on paper you can.
Speaker C:You can write down all the things and benefits of it and I can say it makes perfect logical sense.
Speaker C:Like, Ruben, you remember I told you before, man, you there, we were at.
Speaker C:We were at a random club and some chick just randomly asked me at the bar, how do you feel about polygamy?
Speaker C:To which my response was, I've never thought about it.
Speaker C:Why would anyone ask me that question?
Speaker C:But she, she then went on like a, like almost like a 30 second elevator pitch about the benefits of it.
Speaker C:And I just kept thinking, on paper, everything you're putting down makes perfect sense.
Speaker C:Unfortunately, I know there are people involved in this equation, which completely eliminates all the logical you talking about right now because as AG said, feelings are going to happen it something.
Speaker C:And then it just sounds dreadful.
Speaker C:Have to worry about multiple women being upset with me.
Speaker C:That sounds miserable.
Speaker C:Like, I get it, I get it.
Speaker C:The.
Speaker C:The male phallus part of you is supposed to be like, hey man, you know what's better than 1, 2.
Speaker C:And it's like, yeah, when you're talking about one topic, one topic.
Speaker C:But when you talking about all the other stuff, no thanks, bro.
Speaker C:I am good.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:I'm.
Speaker C:No, thanks.
Speaker C:That's some.
Speaker C:As Richard Pryor said, that's some place you can keep.
Speaker B:I knew he was in it.
Speaker B:I knew it was coming at some point.
Speaker C:He's doing.
Speaker B:Because it's true, man.
Speaker B:It's true.
Speaker B:It's like what he.
Speaker B:What Mo says about money.
Speaker B:All money ain't good money, man.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker B:All booty and good booty.
Speaker B:I could not imagine being with some.
Speaker B:Being with four or five different Lawrence, bro.
Speaker B:And she's the best thing cooking.
Speaker B:She's a smokehouse.
Speaker B:But with that, you're, you're.
Speaker B:I feel like some of presumption is you think that you gonna get two or three bangers.
Speaker B:Like all of them are awesome women.
Speaker B:No, man, no.
Speaker B:And even if they were, all three of them have different Nuances that you have to address.
Speaker B:That means you have to be in the film room three different times for three different teams and be prepared on Sunday.
Speaker C:And you know, they better at tribe mentality.
Speaker C:So if one gets mad, she gonna bring all her sisters with her ex.
Speaker C:Like everybody gonna be mad at you.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker B:Because see, what you didn't, what you didn't talk about, which I don't know if this is part of what you were saying, but doing this where no one's living together is different than doing this when everyone's living together or living closely.
Speaker B:Like when you brought up sister wives.
Speaker B:They all live in the same cul de sac.
Speaker B:They have houses next to each other.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:And so it's like basically they have one big house and everybody's involved.
Speaker B:And it's like different than I'm seeing this woman, I'm seeing that woman.
Speaker B:They all know about me and they all see other people.
Speaker B:Cuz ain't nobody living together.
Speaker B:And that's a whole.
Speaker B:It's a whole another dynamic when people live together.
Speaker A:Correct, Correct.
Speaker A:That's part of it.
Speaker A:That's one of them.
Speaker A:And the other part is just the actual swinging part.
Speaker A:Couples and stuff like that.
Speaker C:Yeah, I, I do want to address the, the parts of the sales approach that people have to open relationships that I do actually wholeheartedly agree with.
Speaker C:If you look at like divorce rates and you look at like people, the number one reason generally stems around infidelity.
Speaker C:So if you can eliminate one of the major contributors to people breaking up, I can understand how somebody will sell that as a benefit.
Speaker C:The other thing is, I think the reason the idea sounds good because what the idea does open up is more honest communication.
Speaker A:Because.
Speaker C:We've talked about it before.
Speaker C:Like if we actually said out loud all the things that we actually like to the person that we're with, nobody would accept us.
Speaker C:So there's a lot of things that we just say, you know what, gonna pocket that and never bring that out out.
Speaker C:Unless she says it's cool.
Speaker C:But she's got to say it's cool because I ain't about to say that shit and up all this other stuff.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker C:So in, in that sense, I can see how those people who have eliminated the, the shame and guilt of desires out of the relationship.
Speaker C:I can see how they could probably much better communicators with, with everything.
Speaker C:And.
Speaker C:But the number one reason I just don't think it works holistically is the only way open relationships can work is if both partners have the same level of being able to Find other participants.
Speaker C:Meaning.
Speaker C:And that doesn't mean the looks department, because that's.
Speaker C:That's not it.
Speaker C:The only way this open thing can work needs two ingredients.
Speaker C:You gotta have a hot chick and a paid dude, because those are the only people who are playing on equal playing field.
Speaker C:Like a rich dude and a hot chick.
Speaker C:Even playing field, because both of them can roam the streets, find the partner of their choosing, and nobody's gonna sweat it.
Speaker C:But.
Speaker C:But if you just Joe Blow, that works at a factory, and you wouldn't attract a woman, y' all ain't got the same option.
Speaker C:And at some point in time, you're gonna run into the ag complex where, hey, man, she gonna find a better option.
Speaker C:So you, You.
Speaker C:You got to be able to match energy in there, and we can't match energy with the looks.
Speaker C:I don't care how hot how sex thinks he is.
Speaker C:Hot chick is always gonna be hotter on these streets.
Speaker C:However, I don't care how hot that chick thinks she is.
Speaker C:A billionaire got all the options.
Speaker C:That's the only way it can work.
Speaker C:It's got to be a smoking hot chick and a super paid dude.
Speaker C:They can have all the open relationship they want.
Speaker C:And I can see wholeheartedly how that could work.
Speaker C:But you, that works at Walmart shipping factory.
Speaker C:Nah, bro, it probably ain't gonna work for you unless you just cool with like, harboring threes.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker B:Can you find a lie?
Speaker A:No, it's just wow.
Speaker B:I mean, there are exceptions, but basically, can you find a lie?
Speaker A:It's just wow.
Speaker A:It's just wow.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker A:That's all I got, you know.
Speaker A:Now, I assume a 3.
Speaker A:Are you saying 3 out of 5 or a 3 out of 10?
Speaker C:Doesn't matter either way.
Speaker C:Like, it probably ain't what you want as a guy, ideally.
Speaker C:Because like AG said, when you think about it as guy, you're thinking, oh, man, I could find two or three bangers.
Speaker C:That's not how it works because every banger is expensive.
Speaker C:So unless you got the financial backing to support all this banging you trying to do.
Speaker C:Nah, just, just, just be happy you found one.
Speaker C:And, and double down on that.
Speaker C:Because you, you.
Speaker C:You average dude making average salary.
Speaker C:Salary, you are not gonna find three.
Speaker C:Like Neil.
Speaker C:Neil is paid enough.
Speaker C:Well, he probably can, you know, He.
Speaker C:He'll keep writing these songs, he gonna keep getting these royalty checks, and he can be with two or three fine chicks.
Speaker C:You, sir, that works in retail ain't gonna make it happen, bro.
Speaker A:Just damn.
Speaker C:It's not gonna happen.
Speaker B:I mean, you say that Ruben but is he wrong?
Speaker C:I know it's Mr. Marcus dig.
Speaker C:Like, you just still.
Speaker C:It still ain't gonna work for you.
Speaker C:Like.
Speaker C:Like, eventually, it just ain't gonna work.
Speaker B:Telling you, man, women.
Speaker B:Women are going with a better option, especially in a situation like that.
Speaker B:It's like, I c. Let me.
Speaker C:Let me play out the scenario.
Speaker C:Let's say.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Let's say you work at FedEx, right?
Speaker C:And you got a banger.
Speaker C:She.
Speaker C:She.
Speaker C:She a nine.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Maybe not ten.
Speaker C:She a nine solid.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:And you like, hey, we gonna do this open thing, chipping your penis to all these fives and six on a daily basis, because that's.
Speaker C:That's what you're gonna get access to being.
Speaker C:Being who you are.
Speaker B:I love being on this show with him.
Speaker C:And then one.
Speaker C:And then one day, your nine is gonna be doing the same thing, and she gonna get with somebody who's paid, and that dude is gonna be like, hey, why you still with that FedEx?
Speaker C:And she's gonna be like, that's a good point.
Speaker C:Why am I better?
Speaker A:Option.
Speaker A:Option.
Speaker B:I'm gonna take the fastest horse, sir, and I will jump off.
Speaker B:I will kill a huffer to get on that faster horse.
Speaker B:Better option, sir.
Speaker B:That's how women roll.
Speaker B:Because women have told me.
Speaker B:I'm just letting you know.
Speaker B:He's.
Speaker B:Can you find a lie?
Speaker B:It's harsh, but can you find a lie?
Speaker A:I mean, I'm not really looking for lies.
Speaker A:I'm just, you know.
Speaker B:I see what you're saying.
Speaker B:I'm just saying some of your reaction is just like.
Speaker B:But can you find a lie?
Speaker A:Like, he, you know, Moby always.
Speaker A:He always, always.
Speaker A:He always does the funny.
Speaker A:Because it's funny.
Speaker A:I mean, and it makes sense.
Speaker B:It's funny because.
Speaker A:100.
Speaker B:Correct.
Speaker C:But I wasn't trying to be funny.
Speaker C:I'm literally just.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker C:That's the reason.
Speaker C:I know.
Speaker C:Ideally, it just doesn't work.
Speaker C:Now, once again, if you were saying, hey, man, you're a millionaire.
Speaker C:You cool with open relationship?
Speaker C:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker C:Go do your thing, bro.
Speaker C:Like, you get it, how you live.
Speaker C:But like a regular dude, I.
Speaker C:Out here.
Speaker C:I mean, bro, unless your game is airtight, and even then, man, you're gonna lose some.
Speaker C:You gonna lose some.
Speaker A:So everybody.
Speaker A:So basically, which is, you know, basically, it comes out, you know, And I, you know, I. I agree.
Speaker A:It comes down to, hey, man, your finances.
Speaker A:Because your finances allow you to get into the game, and they'll allow you to stay into the game.
Speaker A:Correct.
Speaker A:As I believe that's what I heard for the most part.
Speaker A:Cuz, you know, am I wrong here?
Speaker B:No, you're not wrong.
Speaker B:But just.
Speaker B:I mean the same thing for women with women that don't.
Speaker C:I'm, I'm not trying to paint the picture that every chick is a gold digger.
Speaker C:I'm simply going off of like the standards that they set because when you ask every woman, when they describe people, the financial thing is in there.
Speaker C:So I'm just saying like if you really want to keep your option open, open and you really trying to do this open lifestyle, hey bro, your pockets better be open too.
Speaker B:Hey man, it's the same energy, bro.
Speaker B:This is, we're not allowed to say it but as far as I'm concerned because of, because of women set this up for us.
Speaker B:We talk about money for men a lot and what we owe and what we need to do all the things.
Speaker B:What we are not allowed to say is that if you don't have the right rack and the right, the right booty then that's your currency and you're not going to succeed.
Speaker B:You're not, you're not going to succeed in this area.
Speaker B:Now I will say the what offsets it a little bit is the idea that you have a vagina at all.
Speaker B:But honestly the hot chick references is legit, man.
Speaker B:It's just like fives and sixes can't live in this environment.
Speaker B:They will fail because they're just not hot enough.
Speaker B:Honestly, they're just, just not.
Speaker B:Now I'm not saying that they won't, you know, be in the game, but I don't know if they wearing no rings or not.
Speaker B:And when I say rings I don't mean matrimony, I'm talking about championships.
Speaker C:So yeah, the fact you got a vagina means you always got options, right?
Speaker B:But not as many as the hot chick.
Speaker C:Yeah, we're not saying that it but honestly a basic chick can say I'm down for open relationship and there's going to be a whole bunch of dudes that's cool with it kind of, you know.
Speaker C:But I promise you the, the people, the level of people who are going to be really cool with that open relationship are generally going to be you got to have the same prospect ratio.
Speaker C:Like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like if she's a five star recruit, you got to be a five star program to get to land that recruit.
Speaker B:Could not agree more.
Speaker B:I mean like I said before, for long term success, that is what required.
Speaker C:Division 2 schools don't be recruiting at the McDonald's All American Game because they know this ain't my lane.
Speaker A:No, no, I definitely hear that.
Speaker A:Definitely hear that.
Speaker A:So before I have my conversation, you know, Brett had a five girl rotation.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:What worked well was four had a man and one was a folly.
Speaker A:He got lucky.
Speaker A:They just want some side action.
Speaker A:Hey, man.
Speaker A:Salute.
Speaker B:You know, I'm so glad that he's on here with this, because what we.
Speaker B:What I was afraid of was we're, we're talking about something we know nothing about in a vacuum.
Speaker B:So I'm glad he's here saying this.
Speaker B:So that makes me feel like we're on the right track.
Speaker B:That's all.
Speaker A:You know, he said five and sixes were his bread and butter.
Speaker C:Once again.
Speaker C:That's.
Speaker C:Hey, that's where you gonna land.
Speaker C:Exactly.
Speaker C:And look, I'm, I'm not downing them.
Speaker C:Not downing them because you, you find a good 56 with a cool personality that don't cause you no drama.
Speaker C:Hey, bro, high five to you, bro.
Speaker C:You are winning.
Speaker B:Everybody need a bench.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So, I mean, yeah, I, I, I definitely agree.
Speaker A:I definitely think it's a, the majority whether, whether you're white or black or whatever race you are.
Speaker A:A lot of it's all about the financial right.
Speaker A:You know, first of all, you got to have your financial right.
Speaker A:And, you know, in order to the seven pluses.
Speaker A:Well, we'll just say that.
Speaker C:Oh, I don't mean to cut you off, but I almost feel like we, we could be talking about different things because, like, no, you don't have to be paid to have multiple women on rotation.
Speaker C:The thing is, you're not actually in a relationship with any of these chicks.
Speaker C:You just out here hoeing.
Speaker A:Exactly two different topics.
Speaker C:Yeah, like, the open relationship is I'm, I'm doing stuff with you, and you know that I'm doing stuff with them, and she knows that I'm stuff with you, and everybody cool with it.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:Different thing.
Speaker C:I mean, I hope you're just not describing hoeing, because, like, you know, anybody can hope there's.
Speaker C:There's no number requirement on hoeing.
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Speaker B:I love when he gives me these layups for intros.
Speaker A:I mean, so, I mean.
Speaker A:And honestly, you know, the interesting thing about it is I would think that, you know, as far as.
Speaker A:Yeah, if you're.
Speaker A:If you're just having sex with sex with other people and your partner knows about it, I mean, I guess that's.
Speaker A:I don't know if that's Hoenn per se, because that's different.
Speaker C:Right.
Speaker C:But you're calling it a partner, so you're calling in a partner.
Speaker C:So that, that is an open relationship.
Speaker C:If your partner knows about it and that person still calls you their partner, that's an open relationship.
Speaker A:Yeah, but you ain't, because you, you,.
Speaker C:You don't call just a random person you smashing your partner.
Speaker A:Yeah, true that.
Speaker A:True that.
Speaker A:Well, I mean, I guess what I'm saying is like, so for instance, if I was married and, you know, I guess, you know, part of this lifestyle, from what I've read and stuff, is like, you know, they go to parties, swinger parties, and sometimes wives, you know, they swap wives or whatever that happens there.
Speaker A:I've never been to one, so I don't really know what happens there.
Speaker A:I just read books.
Speaker C:So it's like a recruiting camp pretty much.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:You got.
Speaker C:Look, I'm putting things, I'm putting things in.
Speaker C:Sports references make sense for me.
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker A:Hey, man, whatever works for whatever works.
Speaker A:So, like, yeah, you know, obviously one person.
Speaker A:What my assumption is one of them must be attractive, if not both, because I can't imagine two unattractive women go to unattractive people going into that type of environment.
Speaker A:Unless you're finding another.
Speaker A:But I don't know.
Speaker A:I mean, once again, I'm going to.
Speaker C:Promise you both people do not have to be attractive.
Speaker A:No, no, I'm saying one of them has to be attractive.
Speaker A:I can't imagine both of them being threes.
Speaker C:Okay, you remember back in the day when HBO used to show that all them sex Stuff like, it'd be them swinger camps, and it won't a hot person there.
Speaker C:It's just a whole bunch of people that like banging.
Speaker C:And that's, you know, if you chasing that high man, like, you don't really care who your supplier is.
Speaker A:So, I mean, there you go, right?
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So I guess let's remove the.
Speaker A:Let's remove that away from the situation.
Speaker A:And I mean, when it all comes down to it, y' all both riding for each other.
Speaker A:Y' all just like to have sex with other.
Speaker A:Other people.
Speaker A:I mean, I understand how society wise.
Speaker A:Society wise, that's probably not the thing you want to bring up at the cookout, you know, But I mean, I guess my question is if I assume one of you has to want to do that to maybe convince the other to do that, because I. I would find it interesting.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't know how two people would just decide, hey, let's go swing, if neither one of them wanted to do it.
Speaker C:They recruit just like any.
Speaker C:Anybody else.
Speaker C:Have you ever heard a movie?
Speaker C:No, but I do.
Speaker C:I do know people who have been to set parties and all, and honestly, they say, hey, man, it's real chill.
Speaker C:It's no pressure.
Speaker C:They just basically be like, hey, you know, if you.
Speaker C:If you're interested in doing something cool, if you're not, just don't f up the vibe.
Speaker C:And I'm just like, hey, man, like, I can understand how that would work.
Speaker C:And that's a very good recruiting pitch because, you know, you can't come too hard on, like, a.
Speaker C:A foreign lifestyle to people.
Speaker A:You gotta.
Speaker C:You gotta soft recruit them people first, man.
Speaker C:You can't just walk up to some random person at 7:11 and be like, hey, would you like to bang me and my chick?
Speaker C:Like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like, let's.
Speaker A:At 7:11.
Speaker C:I mean, I see you staring at that big bite.
Speaker C:Well, you know what it is, right?
Speaker B:I mean, would you like to.
Speaker B:I see you staring at that big.
Speaker A:B. I got something for you, girl.
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker C:You know, look, I. I got.
Speaker C:I got a friend who.
Speaker C:Who.
Speaker C:He's been to those parties.
Speaker C:He was like, hey, man, first of all, single guys can't go.
Speaker C:And I'm like, hey.
Speaker C:Makes perfect sense.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:He's like, you got to be invited.
Speaker C:It's got to be a couple.
Speaker C:Chick has to bring you.
Speaker C:And I'm like, oh, okay.
Speaker C:So they really do got all these rules.
Speaker C:And I'm just like, hey, man, I. I respect the game, you know?
Speaker C:What I'm saying, I respect the game.
Speaker C:And he was like, yo, I went there.
Speaker C:A lot of wild stuff going on.
Speaker C:He was like, I was just drinking.
Speaker C:And he was like, nobody was.
Speaker C:I had people just have a random conversation with me.
Speaker C:It was all chill.
Speaker C:And he was like.
Speaker C:And then we left and he was like.
Speaker C:And I was like, nah, I'm.
Speaker C:I'm good.
Speaker C:I don't necessarily want to do this, but it was a chill vibe and I'm just like, cool.
Speaker C:You gave me all the experience in that place I need.
Speaker C:Just by you telling me.
Speaker A:Yeah, because I'd be weird in a.
Speaker C:Place like that because my biggest fear would be some random person touching me.
Speaker C:And I'm.
Speaker C:I know I'm a guy and it's.
Speaker C:It sounds like, you know, oh, what if an attractive woman just randomly touches you?
Speaker C:Look, I'm just kind of weird about people I don't know touching me, period.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:Like, hey, you remember we used to go to Hooters and because Ruben would say it, he was like, man, I hate when the chicks come sit at the table and they put their hand on your shoulder.
Speaker C:And I was with him the first time we did it.
Speaker C:And she did.
Speaker C:I'm like, hey, you don't to have to touch me.
Speaker C:And he just looked at me like.
Speaker C:I was like, yo, you don't have to touch me.
Speaker C:And she looked at me like she was surprised.
Speaker C:I'm like, no offense.
Speaker C:I'm just saying I'mma tip you either way.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:Like, you know.
Speaker C:Yeah, that's not going to affect your tip.
Speaker C:What's going to affect your tip is how fast food come out and my drink stays full.
Speaker C:We good?
Speaker A:I mean, yeah.
Speaker B:You said you don't have to touch me, but y.
Speaker A:He is very true.
Speaker C:That.
Speaker A:That's some true, man.
Speaker A:I'm with.
Speaker A:I am the bubble bro.
Speaker A:I don't care how hot you are or who you are, the bubble man.
Speaker A:You gotta ask for permission.
Speaker A:You just can't be rolling up in here just touching shit.
Speaker A:Nah, nah.
Speaker A:Hell no.
Speaker C:Yeah, I have a complex.
Speaker C:Like I have a.
Speaker C:It's almost a low self esteem complex ag.
Speaker C:Because I'm just like, I don't feel like I'm sexy enough for some random shit to just start telling.
Speaker C:Touching me.
Speaker C:So if somebody does, I assume you trying to get something from me.
Speaker C:Like I. I feel like it's a scam no matter what.
Speaker C:But hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
Speaker C:I'm good.
Speaker B:And you know, in that situation, you're absolutely right.
Speaker B:100 They don't like you, but they know what you respond to.
Speaker B:So there it is.
Speaker B:You, right?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Hey, I'm fat.
Speaker A:I respond to food, baby.
Speaker A:And it's quick.
Speaker A:You can get it out here.
Speaker A:Let's go.
Speaker A:Like, I mean.
Speaker A:I mean, he laughing, man, but I'm so serious.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:Because honestly, we made a joke with her.
Speaker C:I'm like, it's too.
Speaker C:It's two big guys here, man.
Speaker C:Your tip's gonna be based on this food, baby.
Speaker C:Like, you bet.
Speaker C:If you want a good tip, you better go holler.
Speaker C:Them chefs back there controlling your destiny.
Speaker B:Right now, so they control your destiny right now.
Speaker A:He is not lying whatsoever.
Speaker B:Oh, man, that's hilarious.
Speaker A:I mean, it's.
Speaker A:Yo, it's just.
Speaker A:I don't know, man.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker A:Like, I'm.
Speaker B:I'm.
Speaker A:I've always been like that.
Speaker A:It's just like, yo, what?
Speaker A:Like, weird.
Speaker A:Weird stuff, man.
Speaker A:Just weird stuff has happened to me as.
Speaker A:As I grew up, and it's just like, you know, what are we doing?
Speaker A:Like, personal space.
Speaker A:There is.
Speaker A:I don't.
Speaker A:Like, I don't have an issue of being intimate or being close on somebody, but it's like, yeah, I don't need to turn a corner and, like, you all, like, all over me.
Speaker A:Hell no.
Speaker A:Like, unless.
Speaker A:Like, it's different if you.
Speaker A:If you hurt now, you heard if.
Speaker C:I know you, you know?
Speaker C:Yeah, I know you.
Speaker A:But, yeah, like, for instance, old story.
Speaker A:I was like, 15 or whatever, and I might have chosen on the show before, went to, like, to it.
Speaker A:To a conference or whatever, and I think it was in Kentucky or Tennessee.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:Whatever, whatever.
Speaker A:I'm like, 15, you know, I flew on a plane.
Speaker A:There was crazy.
Speaker A:Like, I'm on a plane.
Speaker A:What the hell?
Speaker A:Yeah, I get there.
Speaker A:I mean, people.
Speaker A:And I'll say it.
Speaker A:White girl, nice white girl.
Speaker A:Whatever, whatever.
Speaker C:I like how you had to put that disclaimer.
Speaker C:It was a nice.
Speaker C:It was a nice one.
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker B:It was a nice colored fella.
Speaker A:Yeah, I put that disclaimer in there because when I'm about to make this statement, I mean, it happens.
Speaker A:So I'm introducing myself to people.
Speaker A:Hey, how you doing?
Speaker A:Shake hands.
Speaker A:Whatever, whatever.
Speaker A:She literally is like, hey, I'm such.
Speaker B:And such.
Speaker A:And she kisses me around the lips, and I'm just like, the like, what are we doing?
Speaker A:Where am I?
Speaker A:Am I at some place where I. I wasn't ready for this.
Speaker A:And then her, man, her boy is like, oh, she does that to everybody.
Speaker A:I'm just like, what?
Speaker A:A 15, man?
Speaker C:I don't know.
Speaker C:And everybody's okay with this.
Speaker B:He's okay with this, man.
Speaker A:Bro, I, like, mentally, like, lost it for, like, appreciate.
Speaker C:Like, I appreciate you letting me know.
Speaker C:She does this with everybody, but my question to you is, why do y' all let her.
Speaker A:Yeah, like, what the.
Speaker C:Like.
Speaker A:And I mean, it wasn't even.
Speaker A:It was just the initial shot, and then, of course, the whole, hey, man, your bubble, like, type, and I'm just like, yo.
Speaker A:And then he was, like, cool to the other side of the pillow, and I was just like, I'm the Twilight Zone.
Speaker C:Hey, look, man, they.
Speaker A:They.
Speaker C:They was.
Speaker C:They was young, in an open relationship, bro.
Speaker C:You ain't even know you had your first experience at 15.
Speaker C:You know, you was being recruited, dog.
Speaker B:You was being recruited.
Speaker C:They trying to see how young you actual.
Speaker A:Hey, nah, he.
Speaker C:He ain't cool, bro.
Speaker B:He.
Speaker C:He kind of.
Speaker C:He kind of tripped on us, so.
Speaker C:He ain't cool.
Speaker C:He ain't invited to the swinger cookout.
Speaker A:Nah, I won't.
Speaker A:I won't mentally, physically, or anything prepared for that.
Speaker A:I was like, what the.
Speaker C:They was like, man, we thought you was down for the swinging and banging, dog.
Speaker C:Like, you.
Speaker A:No, I won't down for that.
Speaker A:Not at that time, anyway.
Speaker C:I mean, aj, you laugh.
Speaker C:How would you feel about that?
Speaker C:That random.
Speaker C:Them touch it?
Speaker B:Well, you know, it depends.
Speaker B:Like, at Hooters, I understand what's going on.
Speaker B:Like.
Speaker B:Like what you said, the reason why you don't like it.
Speaker B:I know they're trying to kind of shush me up a little bit, thinking that if they do that, I'll get.
Speaker B:They'll get a bigger tip.
Speaker B:Especially in Hooters, where, you know, the servers are 100% women, and it's all sexually driven.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And that's a big.
Speaker B:That's a big piece of context that we need to understand if we're talking.
Speaker B:Talking about places like that.
Speaker B:I don't expect that at Chili's, however, it doesn't bother me, but I can understand how, like, it doesn't bother me, but as long as cameras are on, I'm good.
Speaker B:Because what I don't want is Michael Irvin.
Speaker B:I don't want that experience where you're minding your business and somebody is, you know, does something to you, and then all of a sudden, you lost your experience job.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:So, yeah, I totally understand where you're coming from, but in places like.
Speaker B:Like Hooters or strip club, anything that, like, like Reuben said, anything that's sexually driven, I understand they're trying to hype me up so they can get paid well, and that's the bottom line of it.
Speaker B:Now, I, I, you know, if someone that works at Hooters wants to challenge me, if some strip.
Speaker B:Stripper wants to challenge me, then okay.
Speaker B:But as a man, that's kind of what it is.
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker A:I would.
Speaker A:I would probably separate the Hooters in the strip club thing.
Speaker B:Why?
Speaker A:Because.
Speaker A:But why?
Speaker C:I'm curious about that.
Speaker A:Why?
Speaker A:Well, I.
Speaker A:Because it's just.
Speaker A:Just my feeling.
Speaker C:I'm not calling Hooters server strippers, but I'm saying the concept that he's talking about is the same thing that.
Speaker A:Understand concept.
Speaker C:Trying to build a fake sexual rapport with you to get more money out of you.
Speaker A:Correct.
Speaker A:Correct.
Speaker A:I guess what I'm saying thing is, in a.
Speaker A:In a gentleman's club, like, kind of.
Speaker A:That's kind of what you're there for.
Speaker A:Like, you're not just going, well, people.
Speaker B:Who go to Hooters, by and large, is kind of what they're there for, too.
Speaker C:No.
Speaker C:First of all, at strip club, you're not there to be touched because you're not allowed to touch them.
Speaker C:So you're not there for that.
Speaker A:Well, yes, it's.
Speaker A:And no, I would say.
Speaker A:And it's just me.
Speaker A:I would.
Speaker A:I would say yes or no.
Speaker A:I guess going into.
Speaker A:Like we said earlier, you know, in Hooters, one, it's a family establishment.
Speaker A:So, like, to me, it's about the food, because I'm there.
Speaker A:The food to eat.
Speaker A:I'm not there to.
Speaker C:No, no, I. I get.
Speaker C:I get why you being there is a different.
Speaker A:But I'm.
Speaker C:But.
Speaker A:But at a children's club, unless you're in Magic city and you're there for the lemon pepper wings, you're there for them.
Speaker A:So it's a different.
Speaker A:My thing is, it's a different mentality of why you're there.
Speaker A:So you would expect physical.
Speaker A:Physical contact in a gentleman's club, more so than at Hooters or any other restaurant.
Speaker C:Okay, that.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker C:That is fair.
Speaker C:But I will add.
Speaker C:I will challenge you by saying, hey, if you go to a strip club, does somebody just start giving you a lap dance?
Speaker C:Or do they.
Speaker C:Or do they talk to you first and ask, are you going to pay for set service?
Speaker A:So I will say this.
Speaker A:I've seen both.
Speaker A:I've seen.
Speaker C:Well, look, I have to defer your.
Speaker C:Your strip club.
Speaker C:Now.
Speaker C:I've been to one accidentally in my life.
Speaker C:That was a work function.
Speaker A:What?
Speaker B:I think he told us the story.
Speaker B:I remember that.
Speaker B:I remember that.
Speaker A:Remember that.
Speaker A:I Do remember that?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:You're uncomfortable.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So, yes, right.
Speaker A:I've seen them come and talk first, but then some people just hop in your lap and you.
Speaker A:Not necessarily getting that type of lap.
Speaker C:Dance feel like those are people who are hustling backwards.
Speaker C:You giving up the goods early, baby.
Speaker C:Well,.
Speaker A:Technically, no.
Speaker A:Hey, this is what it feels like if you want to feel more.
Speaker A:Boom, boom, boom.
Speaker A:So once again, you know, I. I would say that's.
Speaker A:That's why I say what I said, right?
Speaker A:Because at Hooters, it's just like to me, it's any other restaurant.
Speaker A:The only difference is the lack of clothes that are covering their body, which in all reality, for the most part, is still pretty covered up with.
Speaker A:Especially on the bottom and legs and stuff like that.
Speaker A:But yeah, I'm not.
Speaker A:Not about, you know, I don't like being that.
Speaker A:But if I know if I'm.
Speaker A:If I'm in a generous club, I mean, you're going to be touched.
Speaker A:It is.
Speaker A:I can't imagine.
Speaker A:Don't touch me.
Speaker A:I'm in a strip club.
Speaker A:Like, I. I just can't imagine that happening.
Speaker A:As far as, like, that.
Speaker C:I get what you're saying.
Speaker C:The mentality is different, but I still think.
Speaker C:I still think if you're saying somebody giving out lap dances without getting confirmation of payment, they hustling backwards.
Speaker C:Ag.
Speaker C:Would you pay for the cow if you got the milk for free?
Speaker A:Nope.
Speaker A:I mean, so I've seen it.
Speaker A:And then.
Speaker B:Look,.
Speaker C:We know how simp culture works.
Speaker C:There's all.
Speaker A:There's.
Speaker C:There's a simp out there for everybody.
Speaker C:But I feel like that's something you got to talk about.
Speaker A:Oh, yes.
Speaker C:You can't wait till you six months in to bring that.
Speaker C:That topic up.
Speaker C:You just can't.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker C:I don't know, man.
Speaker C:It.
Speaker C:It kind of should be.
Speaker C:And I. I think the people who are probably recruiting the correct way probably do make it a pretty early topic because what.
Speaker C:What those people don't seem to want is like, external drama from their lifestyle choice.
Speaker C:And the way to get rid of external drama is to nip it at the butt early.
Speaker A:That's true.
Speaker A:That very true.
Speaker C:I mean, I'm just saying if you.
Speaker C:If you wait till the 15th date to be like, hey, this is going really well, so let me tell you how I actually want to live.
Speaker C:You, you, you.
Speaker C:You kind of missing the point.
Speaker C:Well, let me correct it.
Speaker C:Unless you're a really smoking hot chick or unless you're a really paid dude, those are the only people that can wait till like day 10 to bring that up.
Speaker B:But honest like that, that, wait till day 10.
Speaker B:They probably, they've probably been grooming you for dates one through nine.
Speaker C:Once again, I, I, and you're right, but I'm saying like if, if, if your bank, bank account is strong enough or if you hide enough from perspective, you probably can delay that conversation a little bit because at that point in time, you feel like you've already hooked them.
Speaker C:They're already hooked to some form of this lifestyle, whether it's that money that you throwing out or towards that access you've been throwing out.
Speaker A:I mean, I guess the other part about that is I would assume those who are in the lifestyle have an idea of what they're looking for already.
Speaker A:So even though they might not bring it up till date 10, there have been pieces about it throughout the time you've been with this person.
Speaker A:So it's not like breadcrumbs though, man.
Speaker C:I mean, these are people, these are structures still people and people, like how many people can honestly say they know what they want in a relationship that is always fluid.
Speaker C:Like you might have some hard line things, but like, I promise you, things, things that I valued 10, 15 years ago, man, them shits are different now.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I mean, and so it all depends, right?
Speaker A:Because let's say they were in a life, but something happened to their partner.
Speaker A:They would like to be in life, but you can't be in a life without a partner because then you're just a hoe.
Speaker A:Like, that's basically what that is.
Speaker C:Why can't you be in the light?
Speaker C:Because if you was in the life with the partner and something happened to that partner, you probably had other people you were participating in.
Speaker C:So now you're supposed to transfer partner rights to somebody else.
Speaker C:Ain't that how it works?
Speaker A:I don't have answers to that question.
Speaker B:He just gave me the answer, sir.
Speaker B:I mean, I mean, are we supposed to be coming up with like a definitive yes?
Speaker B:No, maybe with I, I don't think.
Speaker A:There is a definitive yes, no maybe.
Speaker B:I mean, among us, I mean, you're, you're, you know, I, I, I would probably be.
Speaker B:No mo has.
Speaker A:Well, I would assume both y' all will be new.
Speaker A:That's the exception.
Speaker B:I'm just saying.
Speaker B:Because it's like we keep getting deeper in the weeds without purpose.
Speaker B:That's why I'm just like at this.
Speaker A:Point, you know, I, I'm just, I don't know, because I'm not in the opposition.
Speaker C:So it's like I'm, because I don't believe in utopian societies.
Speaker C:I'm not.
Speaker C:I'm probably not as much of a hard line.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker C:As ag.
Speaker C:Like, I'm just like, oh, I can't.
Speaker C:Like, no, I. I just don't believe.
Speaker C:I would always be waiting for the shoe to drop.
Speaker C:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:I'd be like, hey, you was cool.
Speaker A:With it, you was cool with it.
Speaker C:And then one day something gonna happen and that ain't cool.
Speaker C:And now I'm the.
Speaker C:That's got you involved in something that you wanted no parts of.
Speaker C:And I'm a narcissist.
Speaker C:And all, you know, all, all the hot button words that women use when they're giving themselves self therapy.
Speaker C:Like, I would be all of those things.
Speaker C:And I'm good on that, bro.
Speaker B:Like, man, he's not wrong, man.
Speaker C:He is.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:I mean, I would think for me it would be.
Speaker A:It would have to be something that, I mean, since I am not with significant other, it would have to be something that she would be involved in.
Speaker C:And I'mma tell you, I still don't trust it.
Speaker C:Look, man, this, this gonna be the nicest thing I've ever said, but.
Speaker C:You think I trust a woman to.
Speaker A:Know what she wants.
Speaker B:But you've already said those things.
Speaker C:Because I know.
Speaker C:And I don't even fault.
Speaker C:I don't even fault nobody for that because like I said, relationships and stuff are fluid.
Speaker C:And just like ag said, emotions are going to get involved.
Speaker C:So like, yeah, this might have been great up front, but like, eventually I just don't believe that it's gonna always stay the same.
Speaker C:I don't believe in the happily ever after in that capacity.
Speaker C:Like, there is no such thing as happily ever after.
Speaker C:It's a whole bunch of we was happy, then we weren't, then we got back to happy, we fought to be happy again.
Speaker C:Like, there ain't no, There ain't no straight upward trajectory relationship.
Speaker A:So I think, you know, to close this out, I think there's three things, right?
Speaker A:There are three things that.
Speaker A:That would require for, I don't know, not.
Speaker A:I'm not saying required for me, it just be like, whatever.
Speaker A:1.
Speaker A:Like, clearly I'm not bringing this up.
Speaker A:And clearly, like, that's something that's a conversation.
Speaker A:Probably not one conversation.
Speaker A:That's a multiple conversation.
Speaker A:That's probably, hey, let's go look and see what's going on just because I'm curious type of deal, right?
Speaker A:That's one, two.
Speaker A:It takes two special people to be able to do something like that.
Speaker A:And not let it emotionally affect them in a negative way.
Speaker A:I'm kind of with Ag on that point.
Speaker A:I don't know if I could do that.
Speaker A:It would be tough, but I don't know.
Speaker A:So I'm not gonna say I could not not do that.
Speaker A:I'm just saying that I have no idea.
Speaker A:I haven't been put in that situation.
Speaker A:So, you know, experience.
Speaker A:If I experience it, then I guess I'm gonna find out.
Speaker A:And then three, you know, when it's all said and done, like, I ain't telling nobody.
Speaker A:That ain't happening.
Speaker B:So you gonna.
Speaker B:You're gonna write?
Speaker B:You're gonna piggyback on the white folks?
Speaker B:Man, you out here riding dirty, bruh.
Speaker B:I wouldn't judge you.
Speaker B:Ruby, Come on, man.
Speaker B:We family.
Speaker A:I swear to God, Ag, if I ever did that, bro, I'm never telling.
Speaker C:You not, because, be honest, I feel like you should never tell anybody the inner workings of how your relationship works.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:So, like that.
Speaker C:That.
Speaker B:Well, I think what he's saying is especially that.
Speaker C:No, no.
Speaker C:And I actually agree with him.
Speaker C:Especially that, because, like I said, there's gonna be the judgmental people.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:It's gonna be the.
Speaker C:It's gonna be the you going to hell.
Speaker C:It's gonna be the you ain't living right, and then it's gonna be the hating.
Speaker C:That's like how he get away with this.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So funny how this fat do this, ain't this.
Speaker C:Oh, boy.
Speaker A:After I get my high fives from my brothers, I might get one.
Speaker B:Well, actually, they wouldn't do that public publicly, because, you know.
Speaker C:Yeah, those gonna be.
Speaker C:You're not gonna get the high five.
Speaker C:What you're gonna get is you're gonna get the head knob, and then you're gonna have to just take the fake outrage that they're gonna give in front of the women.
Speaker C:They're gonna be like this.
Speaker C:I don't believe you would do this, bro.
Speaker C:Like, come on, man, we better than this.
Speaker C:And then they'll take you later on and be like, hey, dog,.
Speaker A:First of all, this ain't never coming up.
Speaker A:Family barbecue, all that.
Speaker A:But, yo, man, just letting you know, that's what's up.
Speaker A:You know, I get a head knot, but when I see them, oh, I'm getting.
Speaker A:I'm getting dap.
Speaker A:I'm getting a strong clinch hug.
Speaker A:You know, when.
Speaker A:When they clinch like this.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:You gonna get a whisper in your kid.
Speaker A:That's my boy.
Speaker A:I told you.
Speaker A:I told you.
Speaker C:I told you you was gonna come through for us.
Speaker C:Oh, man.
Speaker B:You could have the one random dude.
Speaker C:Being like, was it everything I dreamed.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:And the biggest fear I ever have with doing something like that is if I go to one of those parties and I know somebody, why would that,.
Speaker B:Why would that matter?
Speaker C:Is that a fear?
Speaker C:Would that or should that make you feel relieved?
Speaker B:I think it would make me feel relieved if I was doing that.
Speaker A:I think, I feel like it'd make me.
Speaker C:I don't.
Speaker C:I don't think it even matter because it'd be like, all right, first of all, somebody that you would never suspect, you knew nothing of it, even if they were your enemy.
Speaker C:Now you've got mutual destruction at Yalls Hands.
Speaker C:So it's like, hey, I know you ain't gonna say nothing because then you gotta explain how you know.
Speaker A:Or it could create an option that I never thought I would have ever had.
Speaker C:Once again, I feel like it should.
Speaker C:I feel like it would be more relieving to see like, oh, shit, it won't just me,.
Speaker A:Bro.
Speaker A:Like, I am a full belief that I. I feel confident making the statement and then we're gonna close it out.
Speaker A:That I feel like I know people who are who I know swing.
Speaker A:I feel like at least four, you.
Speaker C:Know, at least four people and that's a made up number.
Speaker C:But I'm almost.
Speaker C:I feel confident, I feel strong.
Speaker C:You might never be able to prove it unless you go in that lice.
Speaker C:But you, I promise you, you know.
Speaker A:At least four people, bro.
Speaker C:Or, or at least, you know, four people that have dabbled.
Speaker C:Maybe they don't live there no more, but you know, they, they, they, they know the vibes.
Speaker C: ere, there was that summer of: Speaker A:Know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:They got.
Speaker A:She touched me on my shoulder.
Speaker A:I didn't know what that meant.
Speaker B:And it wasn't in Hooters either.
Speaker A:Yeah, so.
Speaker A:Yeah, man, I mean, yeah, that's.
Speaker A:Honestly, it's a fear because that's a conversation.
Speaker A:But you're right, I should use that to my advantage because that's mutual, mutual destruction.
Speaker C:But why would it be a conversation?
Speaker A:Because it's gotta be.
Speaker C:There's nothing to talk about.
Speaker C:If we both at the same place, we both here for the same reason.
Speaker A:Well, I guess it's different if it's a guy.
Speaker A:There's no conversation.
Speaker B:Why does it matter, woman?
Speaker A:And I think because I think.
Speaker A:I think some people will conversate.
Speaker B:I'm just saying, other than the fact that I've always wanted to get with you anyway.
Speaker B:So, hey, I mean, Other than that, what are we talking about?
Speaker C:Let me, let me husband like my girl.
Speaker A:Let's get it done.
Speaker C:This is why I'm confused about this, Reuben.
Speaker C:I would never walk in Golden Corral and see you standing in the buffet line and wonder what you doing here.
Speaker B:Mo these.
Speaker B:Now that is a risk deductive statement if I have never heard, man.
Speaker C:Is it?
Speaker C:Ag is.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker B:It's simplistic.
Speaker B:But hold on.
Speaker A:It's like going to a generous club and seeing like Moby.
Speaker A:It's like you going to a generous club and you saw somebody with mama on the stage.
Speaker C:Is it really the same?
Speaker C:There's no conversation.
Speaker C:I see what's happening.
Speaker C:I know what it is.
Speaker A:But she might come to you for what she sees.
Speaker C:Me.
Speaker C:She already knows I know what it is.
Speaker A:Don't you see?
Speaker A:Blues vary Blues they saw the teacher.
Speaker C:She was trying to make sure cuz they didn't have mutual destruction at hand.
Speaker C:She was a teacher.
Speaker A:Yeah, but they were under.
Speaker C:They were.
Speaker C:But they were students.
Speaker C:So what?
Speaker C:Everybody knew how they got down in town.
Speaker C:She was the only one that was going to lose something.
Speaker A:Actually her.
Speaker B:Her strip job was out of town.
Speaker B:That's what it was.
Speaker A:Yeah, it was a town.
Speaker A:It was the next town over.
Speaker C:Does this make sense?
Speaker C:If anybody found out about it, she was the only person that would have been punished.
Speaker A:Truth?
Speaker B:Truth.
Speaker A:Hey, but she was fine.
Speaker C:That's not mutual destruction.
Speaker B:It is not.
Speaker A:Cool.
Speaker A:Well, appreciate that.
Speaker A:Ag.
Speaker A:What's on your mind?
Speaker B:Shout out to my wife, man.
Speaker B:I had a little busy week and I just did the podcast like it just finished up about two hours ago.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker B:Oh, you're welcome, sir.
Speaker B:And I didn't say I was doing it.
Speaker B:We were having a great Sunday, you know, whatever it was.
Speaker B:And I just got up on the computer, got it done and she just went to read the book.
Speaker B:And I especially appreciate that because that quality is not abundant.
Speaker B:So I just want to thank my wife for never being an obstacle in any level of greatness that I'm want to achieve ever.
Speaker B:She doesn't need a heads up.
Speaker B:She doesn't need anything.
Speaker B:She know what time it is.
Speaker B:She knows what time it is and it is what it is.
Speaker B:I appreciate her for that.
Speaker B:I mean I appreciate her for a lot of things, but that is one of the things especially.
Speaker B:Especially in this, this day and age.
Speaker B:She is completely selfless that way.
Speaker B:She's completely selfless in.
Speaker B:Selfless in a lot of ways.
Speaker B:But that one not getting in the way because it's hard to.
Speaker B:It's Hard to succeed unencumbered when you're married.
Speaker B:It's best to do your best work when you're single.
Speaker B:If you can find a woman that can keep you feeling single while you are achieving something while being married.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Continue to lock that down, sir.
Speaker B:So that's what's on my mind.
Speaker A:And that's exactly why you ain't never, ever, ever messed with nobody else.
Speaker A:Because you are completely right, bro.
Speaker A:That is hard to.
Speaker A:It is.
Speaker B:I mean, that was three hours out of my day.
Speaker B:I mean, two and a half, three hours out of my day.
Speaker B:And it's just like.
Speaker B:She just didn't ask because like I said before, we were chilling, whatever, whatever.
Speaker B:And all of a sudden, boom.
Speaker B:I was locked in.
Speaker B:And she never said a word.
Speaker B:She got a book and kept it moving.
Speaker A:Yeah, bro, that's that.
Speaker A:And that's that type of piece that you can't pay for.
Speaker B:You cannot.
Speaker A:So shout out to your wife for that one.
Speaker B:Appreciate it.
Speaker A:I hope I can find a woman who can give me peace like that.
Speaker A:Jesus Christ.
Speaker B:I hope you do too, because a wonderful thing.
Speaker A:Yeah, cuz I haven't found that yet.
Speaker A:I'm still working on it.
Speaker A:Mo B, what's on your mind?
Speaker C:All right, now that we done talked about all.
Speaker C:All the random banging that people was doing, I like, I like to bring you back on task and be like, hey, man, happy Mother's Day out there, y'.
Speaker C:All.
Speaker C:I was in a place today where for all about.
Speaker C:For all of about 10 minutes.
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker C:10 Minutes of the day was the only part of my day in which I wasn't the only guy where I was.
Speaker C:I was at my grandma house.
Speaker C:It was my grandma, my mom, my daughters, wife, my great aunt, a family friend who's pretty much like an aunt to me.
Speaker C:Another lady down the street that.
Speaker C:I can't remember her name, but I've known her since I was like six, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker C:So it's just.
Speaker C:I was just surrounded by a whole bunch of women that I love and respect and my kids.
Speaker C:And my kids.
Speaker C:The reason I said the love, because I don't always have a lot of respect for them because they, they still doing stupid.
Speaker C:Cause they teenagers.
Speaker C:That's okay.
Speaker B:But I still love them.
Speaker C:Like, but, you know, just wanted to be honest at this party.
Speaker B:Did you really have to be that honest, though, right now?
Speaker C:Yeah, man.
Speaker C:Cause look, man, keep it real, man.
Speaker A:Gotta keep it real.
Speaker C:One thing they know about me, I ain't gonna lie to them.
Speaker C:I, I, I, I will lie to almost Everybody in this world.
Speaker C:I ain't lying to them.
Speaker C:And I know that that doesn't sound like a very endearing statement, but for.
Speaker B:You, it is, though.
Speaker C:But I'm like, that's a very consistent thing.
Speaker C:Because I'm like, you know what?
Speaker C:The one thing they're not going to grow up and be like, you know what my daddy lied to?
Speaker C:Nope, nope.
Speaker C:They gonna be like, you know what?
Speaker C:My dad said a whole bunch of uncomfortable truths whether.
Speaker C:Whether I wanted to hear it or not.
Speaker C:But yeah, man, I was just surrounded.
Speaker C:Surrounded by so much love, so many, so many women where I'm just like, yo, man, I. I know usually on Mother's Day, I make a big fuss about all the women doing the post, talking about shout out to all the single moms on Father's Day and stuff.
Speaker C:But you know what, man?
Speaker C:I ain't feel that animus this year, man.
Speaker C:I'm just like, yo, man, not yet.
Speaker C:No, man, I just don't, man, because like, all the women, you should get your flop hours every day.
Speaker C:And I'm okay if you steal that date, that one day that I have, if you take about 10 minutes out that day to steal a little bit of that, you can have it.
Speaker C:Because I have been so blessed to have so many amazing women in my life that, hey, man, it seemed like a small sacrifice to make to give them the one day that we have.
Speaker C:You can have that, too.
Speaker C:And I ain't saying you got to be perfect, but the ladies out there who really do the damn thing in their motherly role in all aspects, shout out to you, man, you actually do deserve floppy hours every day.
Speaker A:And that's it, ladies and gentlemen, that's called growth.
Speaker A:That's called growth.
Speaker A:So what's on my mind is it's a couple things, right?
Speaker A:So as I said, I'm gonna repeat earlier because everybody else has.
Speaker A:Happy Mother's Day.
Speaker A:To all the mothers out there, we love you.
Speaker A:Number two, update.
Speaker A:The hole in my foot is the size of a quarter.
Speaker B:A quarter.
Speaker A:A quarter.
Speaker B:Wait a minute.
Speaker B:I thought it was getting, like, it was a dime last time.
Speaker A:Now you get bigger.
Speaker A:No, no, I never said it was a dime.
Speaker B:No, you said it was small.
Speaker B:A quarter is big, man.
Speaker A:A quarter is.
Speaker A:Is this size.
Speaker A:This is a quarter that still seems.
Speaker C:Bigger than what the last time you said.
Speaker B:I know, I know it does.
Speaker C:Maybe our aspect ratio was off.
Speaker B:Apparently, it was my bad, sir.
Speaker B:Okay, go ahead.
Speaker B:I'm sorry.
Speaker B:Because I was like, what is the world?
Speaker A:Okay, now, now, so last week, size of a quarter probably looking at early June.
Speaker A:I'm done.
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker A:Provided things go well and things are going well.
Speaker A:So just on the health front, number two, it's time to better myself, as always.
Speaker A:Because I. I expect.
Speaker A:My thing is, you should all take time to better yourselves.
Speaker A:Hey, you don't have to do like crazy to better yourself just to do simple.
Speaker A:Like today, it's the first time I can honestly say I finally, finally, I just pulled it out the oven before the show.
Speaker A:I've made a loaf of bread.
Speaker B:Nice.
Speaker B:He did it.
Speaker B:Good for you.
Speaker B:What, did it taste good?
Speaker A:Super excited.
Speaker A:Haven't tasted it yet.
Speaker A:It was really hot.
Speaker A:I'm gonna do that after I get off show.
Speaker A:But, yeah, man, you know, it's a lot into making bread to a point.
Speaker A:But it was my first one.
Speaker A:I know I get better and more.
Speaker A:I do.
Speaker A:I had too much, so I had to freeze the rest of it.
Speaker A:So I'm still excited.
Speaker A:But yeah, man, I'm super excited.
Speaker A:And I've just decided that, you know, every week, obviously, we want to be better every week, but I've decided that one, every week, I'm gonna do one thing better or for the first time from now on, because you can never have too many.
Speaker A:Too many bullets in your gun, too many weapons in your arsenal, whatever, whatever.
Speaker A:And it's super important to be well rounded because you never know when you're gonna need that.
Speaker A:And so regardless if this bread tastes like the greatest ever or just tastes like ass, like, I made some bread now, if it tastes bad, I'll let you know.
Speaker A:If it tastes good, I won't, because it'll probably won't last that long.
Speaker A:But I'm excited that I actually made some.
Speaker A:It proofed up and everything.
Speaker A:Like.
Speaker A:Yeah, I'm super excited on the bread thing.
Speaker A:Next, I'm gonna try to make some biscuits.
Speaker A:So biscuits is my next thing.
Speaker A:But going through that process, it was good.
Speaker A:And it reminds you that patience is important, right?
Speaker A:Not just for cooking, but just for life, you know, because, hey, man, with all the technological advances that we have, such as microwaves and all that, where stuff can be done in, like, two minutes, it was actually pretty cool to see science at work.
Speaker A:All the you learn in school, and you're actually watching it as you're kneading bread and getting your fingers all dirty and shit and all that, and then as it rises to double the size.
Speaker A:Yo, man, it's just.
Speaker A:It's brilliant stuff, man.
Speaker A:And just reminds me of back in the fifth grade.
Speaker A:Probably the.
Speaker A:The most endearing part of my childhood.
Speaker A:You know, Ms. Mosley, man, Ms. Moses, she was coolest teacher ever.
Speaker A:You know, shout out, yo, bro.
Speaker A:For Thanksgiving, she taught us how to churn butter.
Speaker A:And because she was like, back in the day, they didn't have supermarkets and stuff to go get food and stuff like that.
Speaker A:They had to make the own food.
Speaker A:So she literally, we learned how to churn butter in class and we learned how to crochet in class.
Speaker A:And this is while we're doing math, science, arithmetic in English.
Speaker A:And so yeah, man, stuff like this reminds me of that time when life was easy and all you had to do is get up and go to school and learn some shit.
Speaker A:So why not continue that?
Speaker A:And there are a whole bunch of of people who do.
Speaker A:But for those of you who have forgotten about learning, my advice is to learn one thing every week.
Speaker A:No pressure.
Speaker A:It don't have to be the biggest thing ever.
Speaker A:It's just something for you to remind that, hey, I can still do this no matter how old you are young you are, you know, because you never know when you're gonna need it to do do something else.
Speaker A:With that being said, like, thank everybody for listening to the show today.
Speaker A:Appreciate y'.
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Speaker A:And of course, course we're going to do this every Sunday night, 9pm until we feel like getting off.
Speaker A:But today we are going to get off and some people enjoy the rest of your Mother's Day.
Speaker A:And hey, it is definitely springtime.
Speaker A:And woo, it was hot today.
Speaker A:But that's okay.
Speaker A:And as always, peace, love, hair grease, soul and deuces.
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Speaker C:Happy Mother's Day.
Speaker C:Y' all should get some old.
